Deciding whether or not to stay married or get divorced is one of the most difficult and complex decisions most people ever have to make.
It's agonising. That's why so many people stay stuck in indecision purgatory for months, and sometimes even years.
Making a decision is just too tough.
Marriage counselling can help, but only if both partners are open and willing to do the work of change. If you are the only one willing to attend, then what?
Of course you can go to therapy alone, but that's not going to make your partner change. You could also just decide to chuck it all and leave ... if you were sure that's what you wanted. The problem is, you are not sure. You are stuck.
DISCERNMENT COUNSELLING is specifically designed to help couples decide whether to try to work on their marriage or get divorced, it focuses on helping couples gain the clarity they need to make that decision, and the confidence to know that they are making it well.
The question the discernment process is designed to help people answer is: "Are you willing to work on changing your contributions to the marriage?" If both partners answer yes, then they move forward and start working on their marriage intensely. After six months, they revisit the question about whether to divorce, but by then they have more knowledge and clarity about it.
Discernment counselling is not a "magic pill." It can't force a spouse who is determined to divorce to change his/her mind. It won't create a perfectly harmonious relationship between spouses who have let their relationship deteriorate past the point of no return. But, for those couples who are unhappy and are stuck going in circles trying to decide what to do with their marriage, it can help provide clarity about where they are at, and allow them to confidently move forward with whatever decision they make.
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Our Chamber Music Night fundraiser at the KW Chamber Music Society was a great night of music, and one of the most successful we’ve held! Thanks to our audience members and musicians for coming together for such a great night of Chamber Music. Here are some highlights from the second half - the Chamber Ensembles made up of our orchestra members, who played Beethoven’s Septet Op. 20, and Mozart’s Divertimento K137. We’re already planning for next year! 🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵 #kwco#kwcms#communityorchestra#chambermusic#cityofwaterloo#waterlooontario#kwawesome#wrawesome#uptownwaterloo