On my post about finding lasting friendship a few days ago some of you sent me questions asking “Where can I find a friend like that?” Well you start by BEING the type of friend you’re looking for. You also must be very patient.
My friendship with @bryttishere is almost 8 years old. It took time to get to where we are now. Too often we don’t realize what’s wrong with our friendships isn’t the people, but the expectation that trust and complete understanding should be there at the beginning. Beware untrustworthy people, yes, but for everyone else give them time.
Give yourself time to discover the things you need to work on in a friendship too. But above all you must be brave. Brave enough to put yourself out there again and again. Be smart, protect your boundaries and demand respect, but be brave enough to meet potential friends that do not work out. My current closest friends were not my first best friends. They’ve outlasted all the others but I didn’t know that when I met them. Give people time to grow (but be careful you don’t get disrespected along the way.)
TLDR: Be kind and exhibit the kind of friendship you want to receive and be brave enough to pursue potential friends that may fizzle out until you find the ones that don’t. Relationships are rather similar to friendships in this way; don’t expect your first one to be the end all. If it is, that’s rare and I’m genuinely happy for you. But as for the rest of us, we have to go through some heartbreaks and mistakes until we meet the ones we will stay with for years and even decades to come. Again, be patient! Friendships take time and while it isn’t easy, you shouldn’t seek to skip the process it takes to find the ones worth discovering👭💕
Question of the day: do you still have Thanksgiving leftovers in your fridge? If so, what’s left? 👀🍽
My hair is not easy to manage. My hair is doubted by others for its “true” texture. My hair is a statement, a silent protest to standards of “beauty.” My hair IS beauty. My hair is sensitive and brilliant and bright.
My hair is loud. My hair is soft. My hair is bold and unforgiving in its blackness. My hair is connected to my ancestry. My hair is a declaration of survival in a world so against its very existence. My hair is natural. My hair is kinky and wild. My hair is refined. My hair is classy. My hair is fresh air and rainfalls. My hair is pounding waves and thunderous earthquakes. My hair is powerful. My hair is gentle and soothing. My hair is fun and laughter. My hair is warmth. My hair is special. My hair is sacred. My hair is precious, but not all that I am...
My hair is self-love. My hair is growth. My hair is inspiring. My hair is elegant. My hair is more than professional. My hair is more than enough. My hair is my own “hair goals.” My hair is unbothered by the opinions of those not paying for or offering to do it. My hair is royal. My hair is a crown. My hair is real. My hair is honest. My hair is healthy. My hair is part of me. My hair sees no value in showing it’s length to those who doubt it. My hair is bold. My hair is rooted in my culture. My hair twists, bends, braids, curls, stretches, moves and holds every shape possible. My hair is 4C and I wouldn’t change a thing. My hair defies gravity. My hair is magic and I love every strand✨
Question of the day: what’s a song you can’t stop listening to? (I’m trying to update my playlist 👀🎶)
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I’ve been examined ever since I was Semen they took the sonogram and seen the image of a demon 💪😈🤘 #wheelwednesday one of my favorite pics
Get yourself a friend who feels like a sister. Who listens to you talk about anything and everything. Who understands you and allows you room to grow but doesn’t hesitate to give constructive criticism...
A friend who won’t lie to you and puts their trust in you to hold their secrets as well. A friend who will spend hours in silence with you and has your back. Always. Someone you can travel the world with. Find a friend who you took the time to get to know first. Someone who you patiently built years worth of trust and memories with together. Someone who has a sense of humor. Who stays up late for hours and hours talking about anything and everything or nothing at all. Get yourself a friend who inspires you to pursue your passions and strive for more. A friend who understands your deep need to make a crater-sized impact on the world. A friend who isn’t jealous of your accomplishments. A friend you can celebrate wholeheartedly as if it were you achieving another step towards success. Someone you can “clap like it’s you” for👏🏽✨
Get a friend who you can love like family. Someone who won’t hold grudges. Who won’t fight over meaningless things but is someone you’re comfortable disagreeing with when it really counts. Someone who is okay disagreeing with you in return. Someone who’s protective but knows when you need to fight your own battles. Someone who you can invite anywhere but don’t need to be right next to every day to feel close. Someone who you always add to your closest circle no matter how far they move in physical distance. But most importantly — get yourself a friend who photobombs your selfies 😂😂💖
EDIT: I’m spamming some of y’all back today because y’all too pretty😍
Question of the day: what’s a quality you look for in friendship?👭💕
“Just because you don’t look like someone attractive doesn’t mean you’re not attractive. Flowers are pretty, but so are sunsets and they look nothing alike.”
Too often people across social media can make us feel insecure when we realize how different we look from those getting thousands of likes and follows. But the celebration of their beauty doesn’t negate your own one bit. Another person’s success doesn’t depreciate your value. Ever.
While we sometimes have very real double standards, “rules”, self-hate or even racism attached to the oppressive expectations placed on our outward appearance — we shouldn’t allow this to cloud our understanding that each of us is uniquely beautiful. Personally I believe what makes us truly beautiful is we each possess what others do not. What draws us in to one another is the part of you we cannot find in anyone else, physically or spiritually.
You. Are. Unique. And you should be thankful for it! There’s immense pressure in conformity, to blend in and be just as “beautiful” as everyone else. When you choose to let the social standard go and just see yourself for who you are and work to find and understand what makes you uniquely stunning — you can breathe more. There’s massive amounts of bravery needed to love yourself for being different, but the reward is freedom from looking over your shoulder every second of every day to verify that what and who you are fits into a narrow box society has deemed “acceptable.”
Looking like a carbon copy isn’t as fun as it seems. It’s not sustainable. Who you were created to be will always leak through. So save yourself the time and start embracing it today. Find just one thing to revel in and slowly build on that daily. Go slow. Over time who you find shyly peering back at you from the mirror will blossom with a radiance others will envy. Keep glowing until they too feel inspired to look within themselves to find validation. Set your own standard. Be your own beauty💖
EDIT: thanks for all the love on my last post! I’ll be spamming some of you back again today because y’all still pretty😍💕
Question of the day: ☕️Starbucks or 🍩Dunkin?
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@zekain02 doesnt have many clips of Cod but this one is pretty good🔥👀
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Pick a card reading! What will 2020 bring you 🔮🙏 link in my bio 💕
Hallo gaes. Ini dia hasil travel kemaren k sumber mata air cimincul subang.
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