What standard do you set for how people should treat you?
Do you consciously even set a standard? Or do you tolerate things that are completely unacceptable in order to keep the peace?
You are 100% responsible for setting the standard by which people treat you.
Let me say that again so your ego doesn’t speed you past this; you are 100% responsible for setting the standard by which people treat you.
That is both the good news and the bad news.
The good news is that you can choose to set the bar high and require those in your life to read you with decency, integrity and respect.
The bad news is that not 1 in 100 people do this consciously and on purpose. And so end up getting the standard of treatment others feel like giving them.
I want to be clear that accepting bad treatment doesn’t make you nice or kind. It doesn’t make you a good person.
By accepting bad behaviour you are allowing more bad behaviour into the world. And you are allowing that bad behaviour to be focussed on you.
Good, kind decent people of integrity are not afraid of confrontation if the situation requires it.
And they are entirely willing to deal harshly with those that behave badly towards them.
They understand that they are their own gatekeeper, their own door minders filtering into and out of their lives those that wish to meet the standards that they set and those that do not.
They understand that their lives becomes calmer, richer and more vibrant but clearing away those that wish to treat them badly so that room can be made for those that wish to treat them well.
Consider today if you want to, why you would ever want to have an open door policy for those that disrespect you.
Would you leave your front door open to allow just anyone to come in? If they started to mess up your house and steal your stuff, would you let them hang around. Or would you throw them out?
Why should your life be any different?
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Do you know, really know, that you fully deserve the very best in life?
Do you know that you deserve respect, love, kindness, opportunity, happiness, harmony and material abundance?
Or do you simply like the idea of knowing you deserve it, but secretly you ‘know’ it won’t happen for you?
If you don’t know that you deserve the very best, why not?
Why do you think that others deserve the best but you don’t?
As always, slow down and answer honestly, with your feelings, not in words. because there is huge value in you uncovering, the bad thinking that is stopping you from feeling amazing about who you are, from becoming the person you want to be and from living the life you want to live.
Unless and until you expect the best in life you WILL NOT GET IT.
Not because you’re unworthy, not because you you can’t, but because you tell yourself that you’re not and you can’t, consciously or unconsciously.
And that’s what makes the difference.
You won’t see opportunities open to you, you won’t grasp them even when you do as your ego will cook up some bullshit reason why now isn’t the right time or this is quite right for you.
You will screen out the people and circumstances that are right there in front of you, right now that would bring you love, happiness, affection ,respect and incredible opportunity.
Until you see yourself assomlone deserving of respect and he best in life, it cannot happen.
Because your thinking, your behaviour and your choices, all flow from your identity, from the way you see yourself.
You are as worthy of the best in life as anyone else. That isn’t he question.
The question is whether YOU will love and respect yourself enough so that you INEVITABLY get the best in life.
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Whyyy does it look like I’m sucking on sour grapes in this pic 😒😣
Totally not loving the cold nights and would die for a splash of sunshine ☀️
Who’s with me?!
1 day ago
"God doesn’t do everything for us, but neither can we do anything without Him." Joyce Meyer
The word of God tells us in Ephesians 2:8-9 that We are saved by God’s grace through faith in Jesus. We are saved not because of all the good things we have done, but because of His grace through faith. (Ephesians 2:8-9). _
In the same way, we must allow Him to do all our heavy lifting for us. Allowing His grace to work in our lives, rather than letting satan deceive us into thinking if we don't carry on by ourselves, we will fail.
As we learn to fill our minds with the truth that our battles belong to God, we will be able to let God fight our battles for us and realize that worry is something we no longer have to do. When we give our cares to Him, He will take care of us (1 Peter 5:7). The more we lean and rely on God, the more He helps us!
17 hours ago
“Stop trying to pretend like you know what it’s like to hate your body.” 🤔
I posted this image in my stories last week about how I’ve always been insecure working out in a sports bra & was learning to celebrate my body at any size. I got several responses, including the one above, rudely questioning how anyone “my size” could struggle with body image.
Let me tell you this…I have worked with & spoken to THOUSANDS of women of ALL shapes & sizes, from ages 12-80+, and I have YET to meet ONE woman who is happy with her body all the time.
Sadly, women & girls didn’t just simply DECIDE to hate our bodies. We were taught to. We’ve been conditioned since we were far too young to dislike the way we look. To feel like our bodies need to be “fixed.”😔
I realize I have a so called “privileged body.” But I didn’t get to where I am without a lot of effort & respecting my body. Without doing my best to constantly push past old insecurities from once being the “chubby friend,” from coaches pinching my fat telling me I was too “big,” from constant societal & media pressures, etc.
This isn’t a battle for who has it worse. Or who should be “allowed” to struggle with their body image.
It’s a battle of reprogramming we are ALL facing today. Reprogramming of all the BS lies that society has taught us about what is beautiful. From what we may have learned from parents or peers who projected their own insecurities onto us. From the endless marketing headlines from beauty & fat loss companies trying to make us feel unworthy so we buy their products.
The sooner we realize that it is a UNIVERSAL struggle, that NONE of us are immune to, the sooner we can start treating each other more respectfully and loving. 🙏🏻
No, someone else may not know exactly the way you are feeling in your own body, but neither do you.
Shaming anyone for their own personal struggle is not the answer. The way we beat this is unconditional love & compassion for one another.
So give me an AMEN SIS 🙌🏻 below to commit today to showering each other with just that! Because, trust me when I say this, we are all in this together! ❤️🙏🏻
All good things takes time..All changes takes time
Enjoy the process 💗
I really AM stronger then ever 🏋️♀️🏋️♀️
Today I had my weekly session with my personal trainer @beeyourownherolj
And since it were just me and her, I told her to push me harder then ever 😁
I wanted to see and feel myself when she pushed me beyond my own boundaries 🔥💦☠
Hell yeahhhh😈 One Word....
I'm currently still waiting for the result on my x-ray and bloodtest from last week for rheumatoid arthritis and osteoarthritis 🤔
BUT with todays session I DON'T CARE WHAT THE RESULT ARE 💜🏋️♀️👟🔜 I
I am stronger and healthier then ever and whatever issue I may have with my body
I'M NOT GONNA QUIT
I'M NOT GONNA FEEL SORRY FOR MYSELF
God damn it I'm bodybuilding and loosing weight 😍
#transformationtuesday !!! Since switching my hair care routine to naturally based anti aging ingredients my hair has way more natural luster and can actually hold a curl!!
PS this is end of day curls! (yes after working all day and getting compliments on my hair, I decided to have a photo shoot at home 🤣🤣🤣)
✨ Peep my stories for the products and tools used! #healthyhairjourney#latepost
Since I was a grade school girl I saw myself as falling short of being fully likable. Lots of things seemed not quite “up to par”.
Like my shyness, my quietness, my hesitancy to speak up in class even when I knew the answer, how I could rarely seem to add anything to a group conversation without being cut off. How I smiled to cover any awkwardness I sensed when interacting with others. How people often forgot they’d ever met me.
I felt unimportant.
Sometimes just plain “lame.”
I struggled to see myself as those who knew and loved me did: wise, compassionate, funny, calming, heartfelt, passionate, strong, perceptive. I thought they just said such things because they were “supposed” to.
Seeing myself in a negative light only hurt me, and interfered with all the things I most wanted. Most importantly feeling good in my own skin. Some of this made its way right into my adult life and relationships unquestioned.
So it was with surprise that I realized this:
All the things I judged about myself in the past were facets of my sensitivity—and therefor part of the GIFT I bring to this insensitive world.
The things I thought were WRONG with me are actually a lot of what is RIGHT with me. They’re some of the best things about me.
So I’ve been asking myself some questions to help solidify this insight more deeply:
What if my quietness was just part of deeply reflecting and processing things happening around me?
What if my shyness was just part of being observant and perceptive?
What if my smiles were a way to reassure others that I accept them as they are?
What if having nothing to add to a group conversation was because they were often surface level, and I only do deep and meaningful?
What if the people who told me I was lovely as I am were right, and I was always likable and lovable as I am?
What if it’s true for you, too? That all the things you’ve condemned about yourself are the things that actually make you important, essential, and powerful in other people lives—and your own?
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