Family photos will never be the same now lyan walks 🤦🏾♀️🤣.. So one thing I've really been working on is 'Learning how to argue!' I think I had a fairytale version of marriage and three years in (it's taken a while) I think we're actually getting it right 🙌🏾. I definitely think there is an effective way to disagree. Small disagreements were becoming full blown shouting matches, arguments ended up in an exchange of harsh words that could never be taken back and with one of us thinking, feeling or saying I can't do this anymore. Karl and I recently had an 'argument' that ended in us shaking hands and smiling, brilliant right! There was no bitter residue or anything. So I thought I'd share some tips I've learnt along the way... Don't say how you feel straight away (especially us females) I, usually in the heat of the moment write a long message detailing how I feel previously after word vomit I would of just sent the message. Now i read it back to myself, then any point I still feel valid I go back and think of the best way to address it so it can bring about the best outcome. Remembering words are like nails once I've said something in anger those nails will pierce, then when i apologise although Karl can forgive me those words will always leave holes. I try not to use absolute statements like ' you always, you never' etc that will always seem like an attack. I'm also really trying not to let the sun go down on my anger it's hard but it's important not to go bed angry at each other! Last thing if it's not that deep, or detrimental to your relationship (you guessed it) LET IT GO!!! ❤️ PLEASE SHARE YOUR TIPS BELOW let's learn and grow together #PaintoPurpose
The best thing about life is that God us what He has in mind, not what we had in mind. 😀 Our vision at times can be short short sighted and temporal. Trust God, He never changes. ❤️
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There are moments that i realize that “being with someone” is not the same as “being someone” with someone. In my relationship thus far, we have grown in both thick and thin and when we realize the growth is stunted-we chop off the split ends. Growing “with someone” is not easy, it’s fair. This means that for everything we do right, we also do things wrong. And that’s ok. For smiles we receive, we give some tears. And that’s ok. Staying together isn’t our definition of success; but rather, growing as much as we can both next to and with each other has always been our journey.