✨perfectionism & trying new skills✨ Scrolling through Insta I’ve seen so many posts with suggestions of distraction ideas during quarantine and most suggested practicing a new skill, something that I’ve struggled with and I’m pretty confident is linked to my Ed is perfectionism and I know a lot of you guys have experienced this too, so I saw trying a new skill as a way to combat that, I’m a terrible artist and that’s a fact 😂 it just really isn’t my thing and I have 0 talent for it so previously I would have either never attempted drawing anything as I would know I’d never be great at it, or I would obsessively practice so I could ‘perfect it’ so I decided to challenge myself and create something and I really enjoyed it! Yes I did battle thoughts of ‘this is pointless/ a waste of time’ as it didn’t turn out particularly aesthetically pleasing or impressive looking but that’s not the point! I’m allowed to do something simply to enjoy the process and I’m allowed to be mediocre at things! I know this may not be directly ED related but I really believe they are linked and I’d love to hear you guys thoughts on the correlation between the two💕
#Hope. In these uncertain times, we need it more than ever ... but it's always with us, if we just know where to look. (And, at times, what to listen to — thanks, @JasonIsbell!)
Keep hope alive today, friends.
It’s apparently 11 days since my operation, it feels like forever that I hate being stuck in the pen.
Yesterday I got my stitches out, I’m allowed two 5 minute walks each day with this annoying sling thing. Also my hooman now lets me rest on the sofa while she walks from home, I’m just not allowed to jump up or down, the hooman lifts me.
My vet says I’m healing well but I still have to rest and stay in the damn pen for another 6 and a half weeks....
Face scars healing nicely.
My hand is sore and stiff in the mornings, needs s lot of massaging to get going..
Knee is now bending to 100 degrees..
Toe is no longer looking like an alien compared to the rest of my toes, it’s “curling” slowly.
What a journey#RecoveryJourney
How's the recovery community in 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 area doing?
Today I heard that two people in my group just relapsed who had over a year of sobriety.
The more cynical side of me wonders how fragile their foundation of recovery must've been to fall apart so quickly into a crisis.
The more compassionate and practical side of me understands that relapse is always preceded by unregulated internal stress, and there's no way to measure how distressing this situation is or has been for someone.
For some people this pandemic has been a traumatic experience, and it can reactivate past traumas that were themselves born out of intense situations of powerlessness.
Also, there would be no way to know how unstable someone's internal environment was becoming before this happened. So for some people, the current crisis, with its sudden and drastic lifestyle changes, could be the straw that breaks the camels back.
Everyone is experiencing this differently. That's one thing I've found to be absolutely true.
𝑊ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝐼 𝑐𝑎𝑛 𝑝𝑟𝑜𝑚𝑖𝑠𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑖𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑑𝑑𝑖𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑑𝑜𝑒𝑠 𝑛𝑜𝑡 𝑐𝑎𝑟𝑒 𝑎𝑏𝑜𝑢𝑡 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑐𝑢𝑟𝑟𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑠𝑡𝑎𝑡𝑒 𝑜𝑓 𝑔𝑙𝑜𝑏𝑎𝑙 𝑎𝑓𝑓𝑎𝑖𝑟𝑠.
I'm seeing a lot of messages encouraging people to be easy with themselves and lower expectations. "It's okay if you're sleeping in, not exercising, eating snacks all day"... etc. I understand what you're trying to say - have compassion for yourself during a tough time.
But don't forget what got you this far : routine!
Now is 𝐧𝗼𝐭 the time to get complacent.
Be gentle with yourself, but stay vigilant.
Recover Well ♥️
7 hours ago
karlyletomms.com - Okay... So, I am doing my daily mini-blog post a little late today. I have been having some phone problems. Last night, my overnight charge did not occur, but hey...I grew up in a four room house with no running water and no phone. Light was turned on or off by screwing in, or unscrewing the overhead bulb in our seven foot ceiling house. There was no outhouse. We went out behind the smoke house to do our business and overnight, kept a coffee can under the bed. That is why I laugh at people who hoard toilet paper. I have come a VERY LONG WAY since then. If you want to know a little more about what my childhood was like, read my novel, "The Calling Dream" where I drew a lot from my own childhood experience on the farm for the story of the protagonist in this fictional story. The bottom line is that shit is going to happen, always has, always will and we can either deal with it or suffer with it. One of the keys is acceptance. If you can't change it, what choice do you have? One of the keys is mindfulness. It is this moment in which we live. In fact, what is occuring in this moment is the only reality. That which happened a moment ago has passed into oblivion except in our memory. That which may happen a moment from now is unknown and has not yet manifested itself into existence. It is this moment, right here, right now in which we live. No other moment exists but this one. There is no other reality than this one, and as I write this, I am aware that there are billions of separate realities going on right now, but my personal reality is the only one I experience. Yes, it is important to protect myself and others. It is important to take into consideration that covid-19 does not care what flesh it infects. It is important to remember that, in this, we are all equal, but we are all equal anyway. Some people refuse to admit it. It is important to prepare for tomorrow, but most important to live for today. Find whatever you can savor in this moment, cherish this moment, for in a moment, it will be gone. The majority of life is beyond our control, but we have a choice. We can choose to accept or resist. Which one do you think will bring you peace?
6 hours ago
New Blog Post- THIS IS A FIGHT AGAINST SELFISHNESS- A COMMUNITY EFFORT
“A world in chaos and a population confined inside. What seems like the story line to a dystopian movie has instead been the catalyst of a world coming together. The self-interests that were prominent before this pandemic are now clear what if we had a more helping world where instead of self-preservation, we were more concerned with those around us? We in turn might have been better equipped to deal with something of this magnitude-with more doctors, more medical equipment that doesn’t have to be mass produced right now, and less people hoarding toilet paper! But all joking aside- this is a time where people need to be of help and service. With the economic, emotional and mental repercussions of this all, we need to come together and set our selfishness aside. More and more people need our help each day. I know the small acts I can take are to reach OUT to those I love, engage with these I live with to make this the most enjoyable experience, and to be mindful about the precautions in place. This isn’t a selfish fight. This is a fight against selfishness-A Community Effort. And this takes action-not only prayer. As Mother Teresa once said, “Helping hands are better than praying lips”
South OC Detox & Treatment
Today my husband celebrates 1000 DAYS SOBER and in true Quarantine-Titanic fashion he says, “I’m the king of the world!” 🤣
In all seriousness, I am so crazy proud of this man. When I decided to get sober 4 years ago, I never, ever expected that he would get sober, too. When we met, we were drinking buddies from the start. What started out as crazy nights out at the bar became a married couple with kids who enjoyed wine-dates at home, booze-filled vacations, and always entertaining friends with alcohol flowing.
When I got sober it kinda threw our relationship for a loop. I had to find myself again as my husband had to meet a new version of the woman he married. And I had to navigate sobriety while being married to someone who still drank. But I always tried to keep in mind that we were on separate journeys as far as alcohol was concerned. It was not easy for either of us.
Long story short, because it’s not mine to tell, Damon ended up getting sober about 18 months into my recovery journey. I’m just so grateful that we’re on this path together. As hard as marriage is sometimes, I always remember that if I could get sober and if he could get sober and if we could navigate this whole sobriety thing together and come out on the other side with a bond that I completely adore more than I ever imagined, then we can get through absolutely anything.
So congratulations on 1,000 FREAKING DAYS! 🎉 I love you. You are the king of my world. And thank you for being my constant comic relief! 🤣🙏🏼❤️
6 hours ago
My first therapy session is tomorrow! Im so excited and proud that I’ve come this far! I tried going last year but just wasn’t ready for it. #therapy#therapist#therapysession#mentalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthmatters#selfcare#selflove#bestself#workingonme#mentalillness#anxiety#depression#bingeeatingrecovery#ppdrecovery#recoveryjourney#myjourney#mystruggles#mystory#letstalk#healthymind#healthymindset#coping#workingonme
We have a few new amazing members of our team, and we’d like to introduce them to you over the next few weeks 🌱 Here’s Amanda! Amanda Kurpit is a Licensed Social Worker (LSW) and graduate of Boston University’s School of Social Work. She has experience working with individuals, groups, and families and enjoys empowering her clients to make effective changes. Amanda is patient and works effectively with clients who have experienced trauma and addiction. She enjoys working with clients who struggle with anxiety, depression, self- esteem issues, interpersonal difficulties, and emotional dysregulation. Amanda uses techniques from various evidenced based practices such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Motivational Interviewing (MI) and Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS). Amanda is passionate about helping clients notice their innate strengths, wisdom, and ability to make meaningful changes.
✨Amanda sees clients virtually and in our Bryn Mawr office. She also guides our Grief and Trauma Support group Fridays at 6pm. To schedule a free consultation call with Amanda, call us today at 484.784.6244✨
My book ‘Inherit the Dawn’ out now! You can find it on amazon through the link in my bio, and you can get more info on it through my book highlight! ☺️ ❤️
“You deserve to heal” ❤️ I think this is a barrier to treatment that many of us face. Feeling we aren’t ‘sick’ enough or doing ‘bad’ enough for help. But if you’re hurting, if you are in pain, that always deserves help. You don’t have to prove it, you shouldn’t have to. I have felt this thought in every facet of what I struggled with. With my anxiety, mood, eating disorder. But the thought, ‘I’m not sick enough to recover’ is always untrue. I have always deserved recovery, and so have you ☺️❤️
@ someone if you’d like who may need to hear this message, and thank you so much for reading! Remember to turn on post notifications so you never miss a post ☺️❤️
#recovery #growthquotes#poetryofinsta#selfhelpquotes#selflove #selflovequotes#selfcarequotes #emotionalhealth#mentalhealthawareness#recoveryispossible #recoveryquotes#poetry #mentalhealthadvocate#personalgrowth #youareworthy #youareenough#selfcompassion #youareworthy#recoverysayings #recoveryjourney#mentalhealthwarrior #recoverywarrior
Pear presented data today at @ASAM Virtual 2020 demonstrating high satisfaction and engagement with #PDTs for #SUD and #OUD. #asamvirtual2020#addictionmedicine#recoveryjourney https://peartherapeutics.com/pear-therapeutics-presents-data-at-asam-virtual-2020-program-demonstrating-high-satisfaction-and-engagement-for-reset-and-reset-o-in-treating-substance-use-disorder-and-opioid-use-disorder/ …
MY RELAPSE, and what it taught Me! ⠀
💻Youtube Link in bio. ⠀
Relapse is common, current, and very real! Especially right now. ⠀
We are all experiencing an extreme loss of control in ALL aspects of our lives. ⠀
Whether we struggle with addiction or not, this is a difficult and challenging time for all of us. ⠀
Relapse DOES NOT MARK THE END OF OUR RECOVERY JOURNEY!! ⠀
Believe me, I have been there ... ⠀
and found my way back!⠀
•• Check out my video to see how my relapse actually SAVED my life! ⠀
Stay safe, stay healthy. Stay CONNECTED!⠀
You are NOT alone ♥️
hint: try not to lose yourself
In toxic relationships, we tend to believe this type of love and disregard the hurt that comes in. Self worth is hard to maintain. There is a journey ahead of you with every step, alone or with someone cheering you on in the sidelines.
heloo! I've opened this account to express my emotions and feelings more. Beginning to talk to people isn't really my thing but after awhile it gets better i hope. I'd rather stay anonymous for now because I feel a bit uncomfortable revealing who I am. I hope there is no judgement for this is just a journey to help me express my emotions more. thank you! :)
4 hours ago
#escapril2020 day 6: obsession —————————————————— Honestly didn’t think I’d get through this one but here you go
The healing journey might not be so ummm...pretty or handsome.💁🏽♀️💁🏼♂️
You may have days where you don’t feel or look like yourself. Days where the tears just keep flowing. 😭
Then one day, the tears will stop & the pain won’t be as intense. Yay!! 🤗🎊
Eventually you’ll get back to who you are and better. 💫
You got this!
7 hours ago
Right now I’m feeling really guilty about what & how much i’ve eaten.
So i’d like to remind myself and everyone else who is feeling guilty rn that: •
Food is just Food. •
If you’re eating lots of food it’s because you need it. •
If you are gaining weight then it’s because your body needs to gain weight. •
You don’t need to lose weight. •
You are beautiful. •
Every body type is beautiful •
Every size is beautiful. •
Your eating disorder did nothing but harmful and bad things to you so DON’T go back to it.
Stay strong. I believe in you <3
We always love a good #crafternoon @recoverycamp. In fact craft has become an important element of the therapeutic activities in our immersive and evidence-based program. The act of sitting and indulging in a creative activity is such a fun way to calm a busy mind and work through emotions. To have the ability to express yourself is to be free. During this time of social limitations it’s important to remember that there are outlets for liberation. What are some of your latest creative projects? Why not connect with others to share your self expression and mental health #RecoveryJourney? 🎨 ✏️ 🖼💚
Joking aside, there’s not a way to live a full, meaningful life, and avoid all the uncomfortable emotions. It’s not fair, I know.
•Are sensations, vibrations in the body
•Have a beginning, middle, and end
•Won’t kill us, our attempts to avoid them can
•Are like the weather, constantly changing
•Are information - what are they telling us?
When we try to avoid, suppress, or numb our emotions it’s like trying to hold a beach ball under water: it’s nearly impossible, it takes a lot of energy, pulls us from what’s actually important, and eventually it pops up ☄️
Place the ball next to you.
Validate it: It’s ok to feel this way, this is hard.
Come into your body, take some grounding breaths to signal to your body you’re safe.
Notice it eventually floats away.
Small steps each day ~ get my butt closer to the top
The sun was just amazing this evening and love making the most of what we are allowed to do
#PeacefulStrolls… https://www.instagram.com/p/B-kojyaJhGO/?igshid=1jdpp7rmja9cm …
🚨 THIS IS NOT A TRANSFORMATION 🚨This came up in my memories from 4 years ago.... And this might have been the peak of my eating disorder. 😔
I used to see this and be really upset because I didn't look like that anymore. And this is the first year I see it and i don't miss it. 🙅🏻♀️
🚫 I don't miss the countless hours spenteal prepping and searching for food on a tracker app. 🚫
🚫 I don't miss the sick feeling after. Inges and the workout after to compensate. 🚫 .
🚫 I don't miss the anxiety attacks about gatherings or the pain I felt when I didn't look the way I thought I was supposed to at my "goal weight" 🚫
I am so glad I have taken steps in personal growth and realized that my worth cannot be measured by a number on a scale. My valor is not as deep as my subcutaneous fat layer. Oils and yoga are wonderful tools, but going to counseling and reading a book on how to live a life full of love was the best myself all the credit for growing. 🌱
"I am responsible…
When anyone, anywhere,
reaches out for help, I want
the hand of A.A. always to be there.
And for that: I am responsible" ***Thinking tonight how extremely grateful I am for the online meetings of AA, my sponsor, my friends... My community is really coming thru for me, and likewise, I'm here if anyone is curious about sobriety, needs help finding meetings, just wanna text about it, whatever... Wild times call for wild measures. Love you Always 🖤
10 STEPS TO DATING YOURSELF
This is one of my favourite things in life, to date myself.
If you never tried I totally recommend you to give it a go.
The sky is the limit to plan your perfect self dating and it's a very personal thing. :) But I can give you a few suggestions...
1 - Reserve a moment to spend time only with yourself, this can be a few hours to a whole day or even a few days. Put it in your calendar with notification and make it a priority.
2 - Decide the type of dating: exploring nature? romantic dinner? trying a new adventure? beauty session follower by a delicious afternoon tea? Get creative here :)
3 - Set up a nice playlist that goes with the type of dating you're having.
4 - Food? Yep! I wouldn't worry too much about following a diet, this is one unique opportunity for you to enjoy the pleasures of life. Choose your favourite meal and beverage.
5 - Dress up for yourself! Put on your best pieces together, perhaps a nice blend of essential oil and that accessory that you almost never use.
6 - Go crazy, what else can you include in your dating? Fragrances, oils, bath, massage, movie, a different workshop, exotic tea blend, flowers. The world is yours, folk!
7 - Write it down. :) Journalling, an intimate letter, perhaps drawing...
8 - Get excited about it, you can set you a countdown notification in your mobile to create more excitement. Make sure to tell your besties that you will be unavailable at the time of your dating.
9 - Be ready on time and make sure to figure out everything you need prior to your dating, such as transport, room arrangements, foods and drinks... So you can be there when you planned.
10 - Do it more often! What about doing it once a month or fortnightly?
Enjoy yourself, give so much love to your being, laugh, explore, cry, dance, release!