Words to live by when you have a toddler. I needed to be reminded of this today.. “I am 2. I am not terrible…I am frustrated. I am nervous, stressed out, overwhelmed, and confused. I need a hug.” From the diary of a 2-year-old:
Today I woke up and wanted to get dressed by myself but was told “No, we don’t have time, let me do it.” This made me sad.
I wanted to feed myself for breakfast but was told,
“No, you’re too messy, let me do it for you.” This made me feel frustrated.
I wanted to walk to the car and get in on my own but was told, “No, we need to get going, we don’t have time. Let me do it.” This made me cry.
I wanted to get out of the car on my own but was told “No, we don’t have time, let me do it.” This made me want to run away.
Later I wanted to play with blocks but was told “no, not like that, like this…” I decided I didn’t want to play with blocks anymore. I wanted to play with a doll that someone else had, so I took it. I was told “No, don’t do that! You have to share.” I’m not sure what I did, but it made me sad. So I cried. I wanted a hug but was told “No, you’re fine, go play”. I’m being told it’s time to pick up. I know this because someone keeps saying, “Go pick up your toys.” I am not sure what to do, I am waiting for someone to show me. “What are you doing? Why are you just standing there? Pick up your toys, now!” I was not allowed to dress myself or move my own body to get to where I needed to go, but now I am being asked to pick things up.
I’m not sure what to do. Is someone supposed to show me how to do this? Where do I start? Where do these things go? I am hearing a lot of words but I do not understand what is being asked of me. I am scared and do not move.
I lay down on the floor and cry.
When it was time to eat I wanted to get my own food but was told “no, you’re too little. Let me do it.” This made me feel small. I tried to eat the food in front of me but I did not put it there and someone keeps saying “Here, try this, eat this…” and putting things in my face.
I didn’t want to eat anymore. This made me want to throw things and cry.
I can’t get down from the table because no one will let me…because I’m too small
we are not our mistakes or defined by our struggle. we are so much more than that.
it is a totally human experience to have our “what was i thinking” or “i wish i did or didn’t do that” or “i should have known better” thoughts. but, i’ve never totally connected with the word “mistake”. mistakes are just opportunities to learn—chances to claim back our power, change direction, learn and do better next time.
all people are learning and shifting at different rates and paces. people can and will rebirth themselves time and time again. we can always count on that.
let go of the shame. the shame of our past and the shame we hold over other people. people change all of the time, and it’s so much gentler and inspiring to see and support one another as fellow learners in this human experience of life.