What happens to us in our childhood shapes up for who we become as adults. I do a lot of inner child work with my clients helping them recognise when it’s the inner child reacting or the adult. 9/10 it’s the inner child reacting to an unhealed wound. This could be from a major traumatic event in their childhood or something small but the inner child attached meaning that in some way it was their fault. Children never think it’s their parents fault if they are angry, neglectful, abusive or unable to show live. The child will always think it’s their fault, that in some way the parents or caregivers are behaving like that BECAUSE of them rather than it just happening TO them. When a child believes it’s happening to them, the brain needs to make sense of this so it can be a belief of “I’m not worthy” or “I’m not good enough”. This then gets wired in as a subconscious belief and becomes the blueprint for adulthood. It’s only when we change the underlying subconscious belief that we can heal the inner child so that it can merge into the adult and become one. Does your inner child need to upgrade its subconscious belief?
SEPARATING THE NARCISSIST’S DELUSION FROM REALITY 🙈 Since reality doesn't support their grandiose view of themselves, narcissists live in a fantasy world propped up by distortion, self-deception, and magical thinking. They spin self-glorifying fantasies to make themselves feel special and in control (narcissists have fragile egos and are emotionally stunted at the age of a 6yr old child). The reality is that they’re insecure, deceitful, sneaky little cowards- who can’t take responsibility for their own behaviour.
Narcissists have NO grasp on the reality of how the people they interact with, REALLY actually perceive them.
Some insight into reality- The pics are of a message conversation between me and a male (business professional) who had the misfortune of having to interact with the sociopath (my responses are in blue). As you can see in the messages, the man reveals what he REALLY thinks of the narcissistic sociopath I had the misfortune of being involved with for over 10yrs. This is in fact how ALL people who have ongoing interaction with this abusive, deceitful, pathological lying, convicted criminal with no moral compass and no integrity- end up seeing him (the truth is EVERYONE sees through the narcissistic mask, eventually)... SWIPE LEFT to read. #narcissist#sociopath#personalitydisorder#realityvsfantasy#perception #truthbetold💯 #delusional#toxicpeople#insecure#controlfreak#fakepeople#deception#deceit#sneaky#abusive#pathologicalliar#criminal#thieves#liars#cheaters#manipulation#exploitation#gaslighting#narcissisticabuse#dysfunctional#coward#deadbeatdads#financialabuse#betrayal
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Another kind of tyranny exists when a work addict tries to make his dependents grateful for his work addiction.
It works like this....
If I make it clear to my partner that the very roof over her head🏠,
The clothes she wears💃🏼,
The food she eats 🥗and
The freedoms 🦅she enjoys...
Are ALL a direct result on me supplying them for her, and my ability to continue to do so is dependent on my addiction to work.....
Then she will get behind me and understand and allow me to do what I do.
Meanwhile, she thinks:
Yes, that is right.
I need your obsession as much as you do.🤦🏼♀️
I am dependent upon it.
You become, in effect, my prisoner, and as my prisoner you never learn to provide for yourself or learn to feed and clothe yourself, all the while blaming us for your decision to be more married to your work!!
Workaholism, in this way, provides a different kind of control to the addict who renders the recipient helpless, inadequate and dependent.
Don’t be so short sighted😑, pig headed🐷 self righteous🤗 manipulative🕹 and narcissistic🤷🏼♂️ men!!!
Your need for control goes far beyond your own life!
Examine your agendas and true intentions and rediscover your reasons and true north🧭 in business and in life!
To #yourcorediscovery 💫