‘Hij is anders dan de rest’, zei ze over haar zoon. Ze stond vol trots en liefde in de microfoon tegen de spreker op het podium te vertellen. Ik zat een paar rijen verderop, ademloos te luisteren. Het raakte mij in de kern. Ik wist dat ze het goed bedoelde, en toch… voelde ik een woede in me opkomen.
Ik heb een haat/liefde verhouding met het woord ‘anders’. Mijn boek heet notabene ‘Wat nou als het ook anders kan?’ en daar bedoel ik zoveel verschillende dingen mee.
- Wat nou als het leven zoals je ’t altijd dacht te kennen, niet zo blijkt te zijn of blijkt te blijven?
- Wat nou als de verhalen die je aan jezelf over jezelf vertelt, niet de waarheid (hoeven te) zijn?
- Wat nou als je zelf veel meer regie zou kunnen hebben en met veel meer intentie zou kunnen leven dan je nu doet?
- Wat nou als je zou stoppen met jezelf tegenhouden, alleen maar omdat je dan ‘andere’ dingen zou moeten doen dan anderen?
- Wat nou als ‘anders’ verschillende kanten op kan, en alleen jij bepaalt of je ‘anders’ bent of wilt zijn?
- Wat nou als we allemaal denken dat we anders dan anderen zijn, en hard proberen om binnen het ‘plaatje’ of binnen de norm te blijven?
- Wat nou als we allemaal niet weten wat ‘normaal’ is?
- Wat nou als we eigenlijk allemáál anders zijn?
Als we allemaal anders zijn, zijn we daarin ook allemaal hetzelfde.
We zijn ALLEMAAL mens. Read that again.
Met alles wat we zijn, wat we hebben, en ook wat we denken dat er ‘ontbreekt’.
Iemand labelen als ‘anders’ kan ervaren worden als positief of negatief. Maar in de basis is iedereen compleet. Je bent ‘heel’. Je bent niet kapot of gebroken. Je bent compleet. Linksom of rechtsom. Met of zonder sproeten. Met of zonder syndroom of aandoening. Met of zonder arm of been. Met of zonder maat 36 of 52. Met of zonder ouders. Met of zonder baan. Met of zonder diploma’s. Met of zonder dak boven je hoofd. Met of zonder…
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Dus mijn zoon? Die is heel en compleet. En ook anders. Maar niet ‘anders dan de rest’ (alsof de rest allemaal hetzelfde is). Jij bent ook anders. En ik ook. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
En dat het altijd anders kán in het leven, dat geldt dan weer voor iedereen :-)
Accountability says “I see my part.”⠀
Condemnation says “I can’t believe I did that. I’m such an idiot.”⠀
Victimization says “I couldn’t help it.”⠀
The goal here is to learn to take accountability for yourself. You are worthy of having control over yourself.⠀
You are worthy of love.⠀
And you are worthy of being taken care of, but this isn’t someone else’s responsibility, it is your own.⠀
So let go of the self-condemnation and victimization, own our mistakes and MOVE ON!
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19 minutes ago
TRUST YOUR INTUITION & THEN LEAP!
I beg you, find what makes you feel alive and go do more of that!
I didn't wake up one with all the answers.
My journey began years ago and at the time it didn't make sense. I just keep moving, playing, asking the questions. Doing the work. Peeling the layers and getting super curious.
I started asking all the questions you're asking now.
I started by downloading free resources everywhere and snapshotting Instagram posts.
I started ready the books.
Then I did the 6-week online course thing.
A little while after, in a moment of inspiration, I finally took the plunge and made the investment in a Coach.
I remember the exact moment. I was lying on the beach and I thought to myself if I don't commit right now I won't do this. Within 24 hours I'd signed up and paid in full.
The Coach was a woman I'd come across a few months before and had been watching from afar. Something in her resonated with me so strongly.
She inspired me, she was someone I wanted to emulate, and there was something I loved about her energy!
I had no idea this would be such a catalyst in my life. I was already studying Coaching and yet still could not predict the incredible impact it had on me and my life.
I am forever grateful for her, and for trusting my intuition that day.
I realise this might sound like a sales pitch, but honestly, it's just the dam honest truth!
Truth be told I don't care if you get a Coach or not. Yes, I want you to - but for your sake!! It really does not affect me because I love coaching people who WANT to be coached -Who are willing to do the deep work, and who resonate personally with ME.
Those are the people I live to serve.
I love my clients dearly and I feel very honoured daily to get to do what I do. If one day I get to be a part of your journey in this way, well it will be a privilege.
One I very much look forward too.❣️ Big Love,
21 minutes ago
Soak this in my loves.
22 minutes ago
Here’s an exercise I did yesterday and today that I’d invite anyone to do who is thinking that they are doing a lot, are super productive, yet still can’t quite complete everything they think they “should”...
(This exercise is based off of Steven Covey’s rocks, pebbles, sand analogy.)
Take whatever project or area of your life you’re thinking about in particular.
For me, it was work.
> Ask yourself how many hours you want to be devoting to said thing each week.
(I went day by day to sketch out what the ideal hours and breaks would be, then added them all up.)
> Ask yourself what is the PRIORITY or biggest “rock” that must fit within that container of hours.
(For me, it’s client sessions and classes I teach.)
> Subtract the number of hours you’re currently devoting to the rock from how many per week you want to devote. If you’re wanting it to be more hours than it currently is, subtract those and inspect why it’s different.
> Now you have the remaining hours to allocate to the pebbles or medium-priority results. For me, it’s things like bookkeeping, email replies, etc.
> After you subtract those, you’re left with the remainder. The sand. All the little tiny tasks or results that aren’t priority. These need to be added LAST.
If your experience is like mine, you probably discovered you ended up with a negative number. It’s time to get real. You’re trying to fit too much into your container. Time to get creative and/or make some hard decisions, yeah?
Share your experience below! 👇🏻
25 minutes ago
My clients often say the scariest part about life coaching is taking the leap in investing in themselves. Every single client I’ve worked with have confessed to feeling this sentiment. And I’m not shocked by this consistent answer. We invest in our health, our looks, our physical possessions, our families, and sometimes even in our finances, but no one ever teaches us the importance of investing in our personal growth.
What you are capable of doing tomorrow largely depends on what you do today- if you want to understand yourself better, grow your personal insight, have more confidence, deepen your relationship with yourself or strengthen it with others- you have to take that leap to make changes and improvements.
It’s scary, yes, but so is staying in the same place forever. Spend the money to invest in yourself, as your future depends on it. 💞
This is Bingo. It was his face I showed a few weeks ago with the three swirls (in a barrel pattern). The description of being a little complicated was accurate. Mirroring the riders energy also accurate. We have had quite a journey getting connected. I've already learned alot from him. One of the things I did to achieve a pretty big break through was to meditate together. I brought a chair out to the arena and he was beside me in just a halter. I did this because I recognized how he didn't seem to like to be with himself. He was always trying to stay busy and wasn't that good at just hanging out and doing nothing. So I sat in the chair and focused on my breath and closed my eyes. I also used my muse device because I was curious to track my mind using the app. It was a little trickier meditating with the distraction of a horse. It wasn't long at all before he was standing still and then not long after that before his head was on my lap licking my leg. Eventually I built up to meditating for a shorter period and then getting in using the chair. Waiting after mounting had been a challenge but as I made the chair "the resting, breathing and being present spot" it was only two rides before he was content to stand. I have noticed that whenever my mind wanders his does too. He is challenging me to be a very present rider and I'm grateful for his tutelage (even though it can be frustrating and humbling at times). Safe to say he is keeping me accountable.
“O impossível é apenas uma grande palavra usada por gente fraca, que prefere viver no mundo como ele está, em vez de usar o poder que tem para mudá-lo, melhorá-lo. Impossível não é um fato. É uma opinião. Impossível não é uma declaração. É um desafio. Impossível é hipotético. Impossível é temporário. O impossível não existe.”
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43 minutes ago
I love what I do, because I get to solve the problem of ‘how.’⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We all want to know how to do something. It’s the first thought that pops into our heads when presented with a new challenge.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Mindset work is great. It’s completely changed my brain and my business. But sometimes you really do need someone to show you how to do things. How to do it right, and quick, so you aren’t struggling for months on something you could get done in a week.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That’s what I do.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I teach my clients how to talk to their people. How to market. How to present themselves. How to set up their business. How to create content. How to show up consistently, confidently. How to share their expertise. How to build a compelling brand. How to build a website that works. How to run their business without getting caught up in ALLTHETHINGS.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I basically teach people how to find clients and make money.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Maybe it’s my A-liner brain, but having a list of things to do and tutorials on how to do them in order to grow and succeed is the kinda thing I appreciate 😉 So that’s what I give people.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And THEN I coach their minds on doing the work and staying consistent.
43 minutes ago
Wednesday brought to you by this little tip:
Spend 5 to 10 minutes each day for a week, taking a few pictures. They can be pictures of your surroundings that go well with your brand or pictures of you. I recommend a combination.
You want to vary it up a bit between selfies and non-selfies. Don't have someone to take pictures of you? Set the timer and set up your phone on a table/book/ etc.
I always hate the feeling of not having enough new photos but don't want to get newly branded photos all the time!
What are you going to take a photo of today to use in your feed?