Chi Chi 🇨🇱 .
Ahora si comienza la cuenta regresiva.. a dos días de cumplir un sueño , porque con constancia y esfuerzo las cosas tarde o temprano suceden.. .
GO EUROPA 🌍 ✈️ #sueños #travel#europa#emprender#life#instachile
When I saw this quote I felt it big time and wanted to pass it along to all of you. Maybe you’re a people pleaser, maybe you aren’t. But however you identify I’ll encourage you to explore the origin story of how that part of you began to develop and grow along the way.
I’ve talked very openly about my parent’s divorce on podcasts and in interviews. They separated when I was in first grade, and as an only child, I went back and forth between households and became an attuned observer of that which was happening around me (insert...programmed to be a great therapist ;)).
As the system was crashing and burning around me, I observed and developed a skill set of pleasing my parents to the best of my ability. I didn’t want to rock their boat any more than it was already rocking. In environments like this, it’s really easy for a child to shrink their voice, go along with whatever makes a parent happiest, and try to ride under the radar as much as possible. For me, I didn’t want either one to be upset and so I found ways to take on some of their emotional regulation.
When this programming happens, it soon becomes a way of life. Of course it’s wonderful to please others, but not at the expense of ourselves.
What do you do present day where the consequences ask you to self abandon or betray?
What and who does it serve?
What role did you have in your family system to keep the system afloat?
And what have you taken with you?
Some questions to sit with. #mindfulmft