I just finished watching a documentary called “Bikram: yogi, guru, predator.” It’s tough to watch.
This is what happens when we have a collective with unresolved trauma. Desperately searching. Projecting an idealized image onto another wounded human being who exploits his power.
As we enter new paradigms of healing we need to release systems that create dependence: the most uncomfortable part of practicing therapy for me. The reason I created a platform where people can take their power back. Agency is the most important thing we have. Never give it away, to anyone.
Please know the people you admire struggle. All of them. I struggle with the work all the time. I have massive waves of insecurity, and fear, and doubt. Yesterday when my partner told me she wanted a day to herself, still (still!) after all of my work my codependency programming comes up heavy. Last week, when I fucked something up big in my business (bless your heart for catching this @jennaweakland ) I went down a dark spiral for 2 days. My emotions get the best of me. And even in alignment, sometimes I just want to escape. Or stay in bed. I have urges to control my food, to numb. I’m still working towards loving my body. I reached out to my family after a long period of speaking and got a clear silence. I’m grieving, and unraveling and expanding.
As we collectively create new spaces of healing, let us widen our understanding of who can be a healer. Spoiler alert: all of us. Let us honor the knowledge of those without traditional training who have the wisdom that can only come from life. Let us question why our systems sell us on diagnosis, “mental illness”, and do not allow us to understand the earth shaking power within our hearts. Let us collectively step up to heal ourselves and by nature hold space for others to do the same. Let our egos not become fragile, desperate for power, control, + validation. But soft and free and light enough to lift each other up as we were made to.
Let us heal the generational self betrayal to trust SELF above all else #selfhealers
2 days ago
Let’s talk about our shadows.
Our shadow is the parts of ourselves we have disowned. The parts of self that we abandoned to receive love. As children, we get all sorts of unconscious messaging about what is and what isn’t acceptable.
All of us have greed, lust, rage, impulsiveness, jealousy, fear, + a whole spectrum of emotional experiences. But we don’t learn how to let this energy pass through us. So we deny. And repress. And abandon these very real parts of ourselves.
We also have parts of ourselves (deep in our inner being): the artist, the poet, the dancer, the traveler. We were taught to not nurture this part of ourselves in favor of societal achievement.
All of these things make up the shadow self.
The shadow self is completely unconscious. We don’t know these parts of us even exist. It’s called a shadow because we cannot see it. The ego steps in to create a persona. A mask we all wear without even knowing.
When we are disconnected from our shadow self we are in a survival state. We blame. We are defensive. But most of all, we project. Meaning, we take what we haven’t accepted within ourselves and assign it to other people.
The ego knows what it can place onto another, we don’t have to process within ourselves.
Shadow work is deep, transformative work. It’s difficult because we become conscious to parts of self we don’t want to look at. But it’s healing because what we accept we no longer need to project. This enables us to tap into our divine grace, empathy + abundance.
To begin shadow work, we have to become conscious. We have to watch “us” being “us.” We need to view triggers as teachers, showing us what needs to be healed. And people we meet as mirrors. We must pause and breathe rather than react + and start asking questions. Reflecting. Connecting to our internal world.
Are you starting to see your shadow? #selfhealers
4 days ago
Free yourself. Release the ego stories that people’s behavior is a reflection of ourselves. People’s behavior is how they feel about themselves #selfhealers
4 days ago
What we really mean by spiritual awakening, or dark night of the soul, is having an awareness of the ego state.
The ego state is an unconscious state of existing as the false self.
In this state we deny our true nature.
We dismiss our needs. We betray ourselves. We seek external validation. We want partners, parents, therapists, gurus,+ friends to “save” us from ourselves. The ego state lacks self trust, so without someone else we are “stuck.” We live life on the defensive entering every “new” situation with a past belief, not allowing ourselves to have new emotional experiences.
This is the cycle of human suffering.
We live as victims of our past, repeating it over and over again in cycles within the present moment. We live within a story. A story that does not serve us. “I am x” or “I always do x” or “x always happens to me” are the ego stories that drive all of our behavior.
Because the ego state is a state of protection and denial, we aren’t aware of ourselves. We can’t see our actions from an objective awareness. We can’t see our habits and patterns and how they manifest into a physical reality.
This is a powerless state that creates fear + resentment. We have no agency. And when humans have no agency, there will always be rage. The perfect response to a life one hasn’t consciously chosen.
Rage, and violence at its core is a response to this internal state. Violence is just an attempt to finally fully control an experience in ones life.
To live a conscious life is simply to see. It’s observing the choices you make, or don’t make. It’s witnessing your habitual reactions. Your emotional state. What you consume. How you speak. It’s having the humility to see what needs to be unlearned + what needs to be learned.
Where are you in this process? #selfhealers
3 days ago
What would you add?⚡️🌼#selfhealers
2 days ago
This is the greatest time of awakening.
What are we awakening to? We are awakening to who we ACTUALLY are.
We are unlearning, healing, unraveling + consciously becoming.
We are reconnecting to our intuition, to the wisdom of our body, to the immense power within our own hearts.
Spirituality is just connection. Connection to self. To others. To nature. We have been conditioned to disconnect from this. We’ve been conditioned to compete. To achieve. To resist.
As we surrender, as we unravel trauma, as finally let go of our addiction to suffering, we create space for others to do the same.
So we rise from the dark night into the bright light. So we remember. So we show up in this world in a space of love + abundance.
Do the work. Show up for you. Light the path for others to join you. That’s how this whole thing works #selfhealers
2 days ago
We have a cultural epidemic of self betrayal.
We have a collective of adults who do not trust themselves. That broken self trust leads to anger, confusion, and resentment.
It’s important to understand that self betrayal is conditioning. It’s learned.
What we witness during our earliest years, we will later go onto re-enact. In psychoanalysis, this is called the compulsion to repeat. All that means is, we seek what we know.
If you witness adults betraying themselves, you’ll do the same. If adults deny your reality, you’ll deny reality over and over again in cycles. This isn’t something we can be talked out of. It’s literally wrapped in our DNA. It’s stored in the memory of the body.
Part of our awakening is seeing our conditioning for what it is: not who WE are. This is an important step in lifting the veil of shame that comes with acting out self betrayal.
When we can understand why we are pulled towards behavior, we have began the process of healing. When we make new choices, we have began the spiritual journey of reclaiming our true self.
Healing my own self betrayal has changed my life. I focus on these 3 main areas:
1. Keeping small promises to myself every day: I’ve done this for a few years and have build in a trust within myself that allows me flexibility + freedom.
2. Discipline: Disciplineis self love. Our relationship towards it typically needs healing. Practice getting past your mental resistance by doing it anyway. Discipline is a muscle that needs to be worked.
3. Celebrate self: this one is the most difficult for me. I never witnessed an adult celebrating who they were. Start speaking to yourself. Congratulate yourself for the smallest step. Repeat this consistently. It matters #selfhealers
CHASE YOUR DREAMS 💭 ☆ WHEN did you give up on going after what you ACTUALLY wanted??
☆ WHERE have the years gone?? In the blink of an eye, and you look around now to find life is just not what you had expected or hoped it would be before you started just settling for the "norm".
☆ WHY did you start listening to family members telling you what you can and cannot do or their opinions of what YOU are capable of doing??
(Based on THEIR PERCEPTION of the way the world works - albeit probably from a well-meaning place in most cases, in some cases sadly these people, who are supposed to care about you, are actually manipulating and emotionally/mentally abusing you and trying to keep you small and doubting yourself and forget who you once were.
• REMEMBER that girl you once were - HAPPY 💫 CONFIDENT 💫 Eternally OPTIMISTIC, looking forward to how your life and future would unfold. •
❤ BELIEVE You CAN BE HER once AGAIN! ❤
Direct Message (DM) me now, so we can talk about how this IS possible for YOU. •
Infinite love & gratitude,
X 🙏 Everything is Healable 🙏
تو مو ميبيني و من پيچش مو -
1 day ago
Happy birthday Papa Werner !!😘 We pray to Our Lord God for Him to remove your pain and heal you without leaving behind any illness and just want you to be happy. We love you so much!!😘💞
1 day ago
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Everything makes sense
And nothing at all
And I don't understand
Everything all together at once
There is so much more
Even in the quiet of this very moment
A never-ending expansiveness
Every feeling has limitless directions it could go
I bowed to Her all night
On the cold floor
Hands in prayer
I didn't know before
Because I couldn't see
I couldn't conceive of the infinite possibilities
I didn't know Her power
Colorful mechanical locks which where once locked parts of my psyche
Are unnlocking one by one
Forever & ever, outwards
What if I allowed all the doors to unlock?
To not resist
To see what is there
To sink into the unknown
Playing with all the possibilities & not lose myself
To be with pure love
And the darkness
I have the power within me
I am rebirthed
There is still more for me to see