So much of who we think we are is the movement of old patterns in our mind, reactions that reinforce particular behaviors depending on the situations that arise. These mental movements happen rather quickly and strengthen our sense of identity - our habits, whether they support our happiness or not, come together to build our character.
Some may say, well this is who I am, but as our awareness grows we come to understand that 'who I am' is not stagnant or permanent, it is a dynamic accumulation that comes together to create a momentary phenomenon. The mind’s ability to change is one of our greatest powers. When we work toward changing ourselves there may be times where we struggle because a particular habit is so deeply entrenched in our identity.
Self-improvement does not happen overnight; it is a long-term process. If we continue working on ourselves diligently and have a good tool that helps us release the patterns that cause us misery, then we will ultimately succeed in changing ourselves for the better. The deepest part of letting go does not happen when we intellectualize, it happens when we have a tool, like a good meditation technique, that takes us into the subconscious to release the tension that is in there.
Sending love to all beings. May we all find a practice that really helps us let go at the deepest levels. May we all be happy and free.
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And that’s how you know...When the things that excite you...that give you life...that move you...that bring fire to your bones...all those things you once couldn’t wait to share them with him...make you think of someone else...
I have always had this immovable reluctance to be validated by other people’s perception of me or to court attention because any attempt at attention by enhancing yourself for others’ consumption eventually leads to the same - being ruled by outside perception. So it’s very rare that I doll myself up or step outside my natural subtlety. I have found that people I value notice my anyway. But as I get older I seem to find myself in a new place.
It is a new level of freedom where I pay more attention to myself and I am ok with more attention. Is that backwards? I am all dressed up and made up today and just happy to be. Growing up I saw almost everyone around me wanting more while I increasingly wanted less. Now it seems everyone around me wants to step back more while I get more comfortable center stage. Life has this way of reversing the polarity of who you are comfortable being. Maybe that’s a good thing because we are not meant to be just one or the other thing but everything that we all can be. Every new stage of our life requires us to change so we can become more complete. 💫