Anger gets a bad rap, despite it being a perfectly normal, valid and even healthy emotion. Getting angry post trauma can be a sign of posttraumatic growth, something your system needs to do to fully move through it. Just like all emotions, if we repress anger, it may get “stuck” which is an indication that you could benefit from some additional processing.
While it’s normal to experience anger, you don’t have to be held captive by it forever.
Heck, I wish I knew this when I first got hit with anxiety. I didn’t know anxiety had anything to do with physical symptoms.. it was hard for me to understand and process because you watch movies and tv shows growing up and “mental illness” is portrayed as crazy and very different than it actually feels. It’s funny how I remember health class in middle school being taught about “health” exercising, how to eat, sexuality... but where was mental health? In depth not just the definition of what anxiety is. What is it like. When I had my first panic attack I didn’t know what it was ... for a while I didn’t know.
You are not alone in all your physical symptoms. Yes, they are related to anxiety. No, you’re not crazy.
When people who are supposed to take care of us ignore our signals of distress, we learn quickly that our distress doesn’t always translate into closeness, connection, and safety. When this becomes part of our relational script, we're more likely to blame ourselves, identify our own shortcomings as part of the problem and believe relationships are not an essential part of our healing.
Our abandonment wound is said to be among the most painful wounds. Not being seen, heard, understood, and loved impact how we experience, think about, and feel in the world.
It’s easy to suggest that overcoming this (healing from it) is based on your ability to toughen up, push through it, and adopt the correct mindset. The difficulty with this approach is that it puts the onus on the individual to work themselves through a relational wound.
We set the stage for healing to take place through our individual work. Our truest test of our ability to heal from a relational wound will depend on the extent to which we can enter into, sustain, and feel connection and safety within relationships (again or for the first time).
I fully believe we can supercharge our healing by first building a relationship with ourselves. In fact, I view this as an essential part of “the work”. We must, however, commit to deepening this work through relationships.
Healing doesn’t just happen with credit to the individual alone or to someone or something on the other side (such as a therapist, healer, guru, a hobby, a spiritual sense). Instead, the credit goes to the space between. Credit goes to the *individual in relationship* with someone or something. Healing happens when there is enough closeness and enough distance. Healing happens when enough closeness sparks connection and possibility and when enough distance creates movement, freedom, and flow.
Distance helps us navigate hardship independently and allows us to feel empowered by our success. Closeness allows us to honour the natural dependence that comes along with having unmet needs worthy of soothing.
This ebb & flow creates a quiet synergistic magic that allows for these layers to powerfully play their part in changing us.
Jeg har længe tænkt på at skrive noget om nye normaler. Om hvordan psykisk sårbarhed, depression og angst giver en ny virkelighed, som jeg tilpasser mig. Ikke nødvendigvis uden kamp, men der skabes nye spor, nye stier, nye måder jeh forholder mig til verden og mig selv på. Nogle ting er lavpraktiske - f.eks. det at vænne sig til at tage en dosis medicin hver eneste morgen - andet er mere eksistentielt. Noget gør mig bedre tilpas, noget gør mig rasende. Noget er måske helt almindeligt for rigtig mange, noget er bestemt ikke. Men det er nyt for mig. Mit normal har flyttet sig og hvis mit jeg for 15 år siden så på mig jeg nu, er jeg ikke sikker på, at hun ville kunne kende sig selv.
Så nye normaler den næste tid. F.eks. at tage en dosis udskældt antidepressiv hver morgen for at være et nogenlunde sammenhængende menneske, som tror på, at der er andre muligheder tilbage end at forsvinde.
#nytnormalt #psykisksårbarhed #depression#depressiv#omstilling
513 days without consuming sugar, plants & carbs & I continue to experience:
Zero joint pain
Zero brain fog
Does your way of eating treat you as well? If not, why continue it?
Sugar damages human mitochondria every time you consume it! Consuming sugar causes inflammation & insulin resistance🤮
Plants are full of anti-nutrients: oxalate, phytates & lectins that bind & prevent absorption of critical nutrients like calcium. These natural toxins accumulate in the body over time causing inflammation & contributing to neuropathy 🤮
Carbs are 100% non-essential to human health. Carbs convert to glucose when consumed, contributing to T2D & fatty liver🤮
Maybe it's time you start thinking differently about what you put into your mouth🥓✌️