My precious little squisher ❤️. Today you turned two.
Your presence in my life is a testimony to hope.
Your joy is a healing force.
Your energy is contagious.
Your laugh is heartwarming.
Your hugs are empowering.
Your strong will is a challenge.
Your love is fierce.
I am so grateful to be your mother. So lucky to call you mine, so blessed to be the one you run to and so thankful to have lapped the sun with you twice.
Happy Birthday Bam Bam ❤️. (how gorgeous is the dress my mum made for her?!)
5 days ago
“Why do all your kids look alike?” “Because I have 1 baby mama.” 😄💁🏻♂️
Just having fun with these kiddos. If you could see the faces I was making behind the camera, you’d understand their faces lol. .
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The twins are six months! Luna is 16 months! .
The twins love their big sister and she’s the best sister ever. .
They are all starting to reveal their individual personality. I’m curious to see how they develop. .
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C O V I D • C O - P A R E N T S
How have you been corona co-parenting?
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Yesterday I brought my boys to visit their mom. That I was able to do so was in doubt just a few days prior when I went to pick them up.
During this unprecedented time, I’ve talked with some single parents who have worked it out with their co-parent that it is in the child’s best interest to remain where they are for now. I have spoken with others who have made the difficult decision together not to see their child for the time being because they are essential workers at high risk for exposure. Still others have decided to keep visitation routines as is.
There is no right answer, but in the best cases it is a decision made jointly after a discussion. In cases where co-parenting with an ex is challenging, it is a time of further uncertainty. Will they try to make a unilateral decisions? Will they attempt to manipulate things for their own ends?
When there is little faith that a co-parent will put the kids’ best interests first, what to do? I’ve tried to 1) focus only on the things I can control 2) talk to people in my support system, and 3) reminded myself that a co-parent who is difficult to work with will not change the quality of the parent I am when my boys are home.
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How's 'home learning' going?
Last week I googled 'how to become a preschool teacher', today... Nah, not so much.
For the most part, I'm enjoying it. Today Nathan was decorating the girls' room while I was 'teaching'. Keeping both girls engrossed solo was a challenge 🙈 but we actually managed to get some learning done!
53 minutes ago
HAYFEVER IS [INSERT WORD]
Day 2 of our staysafecation and I have become a victim of that mofo gangsta known as Pollen! My asthma has run wild for 3-days and this morning I was a walking disaster.
Emergency support requested from, work from home, mummy @priya_j_jassal to look after the offspring whilst I slept it off...for 3hrs.
Apparently, not that I knew this it's a tree pollen to blame and our back garden has two giant silver birches!
4 weeks ago
The look I received, once she determined we went out for Hibachi tonight.
"What day is it again?" Who knows but all im saying is this virus outbreak has given me the chance to drink more coffee from my snowman mug that usual; which in my book is always a winner. Of an evening me and Michelle are actually watching a film without falling asleep too! Oh and the girls...especially Eden have stopped asking me when Im going to work to "paint someones house" 🤣
6 days ago
Random Confessions Part*
Just like the man @dermotkennedy says... 🎶 "you got that over me, MY MY..." 🎶
2 days ago
How are you? How are things going balancing work, school, and parenting all under the same roof? Plans that ran smoothly a week ago are starting to get a bit wobbly...
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As we continue to observe best practices in order to keep our families and others healthy and safe, and as the weeks become months, our need for support with our parenting grows and changes. What we did to keep our kids occupied and educated early on is no longer as effective. We face new challenges and need new resources.
Even with the best laid plans, an abundance of patience, and kids that really do mean well, there will be moments when we reach our breaking points. It’s normal. It happens to the best of parents under normal circumstances. What you do NEXT is what counts. This is where having professional resources, FREE resources, is a game changer.
I’ve come across two organizations that are opening up their resources to all parents right now. The Love and Logic Institute, which I used when I first became a solo-dad, and Sound Discipline.
I have more info on the blog but I highly encourage everyone taking a look on their own and using what they need during this time. It’s not an ad; I’m not gifted anything. This is simply something we could all benefit from to be the best we can right now.
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Tonight at 8pm my family went outside, howled at the and banged and pots and pans. We did this with our neighbors to celebrate all the healthcare workers and first responseders that are risking their lives during this pandemic while we all shelter in place. They are heros and they need to know they are appreciated. We are all in this together, we are all human, let's all love each other.
Lucky... Lucky to be able to spend the odd date night with this amazing creature, continuing to create memories with and without the kids. We went to an Oh Wonder gig and had our first Five Guys (I know, we’re such bumpkins...). Lucky that she tolerates the rareness of these date nights... Also lucky that we did our romantic moonlit walk from the Concorde 2 venue to the Brighton Marina before Storm Ciara hit last night...
We were meant to fly out with @jet2pics today to @hpbholidays La Gomera and whilst disappointed I couldn't help, but think about the tourist industry that has been left crippled.
So this is a shout out to all flights crews, holiday accommodation staff and everyone else from the airport parking through to airport staff to the ferry we were meant to take. I hope you're doing okay and being looked after.
This view is my family and I looking in the distance for our next holiday. See you all soon.
#staysafe #covıd19 #socialdistancing#lagomera#notlagomera#easterholidays#dadscomm
My sunshine and my rainbow ☀️🌈
Never could I have ever imagined your world turning on its head so dramatically. That you'd be penned in and shut off from your favourite people and places in this way.
It breaks my heart that you aren't able to run and jump into your grandparents arms, go to preschool or on coffee dates with your besties, or have normal interactions with anyone other than us.
But I'm so glad and grateful you have each other through this. Even if you tussle and fight every now and again and drive us mad, I'm grateful for what this time is doing to your friendship. --- Amber is 2 this week. She's still kind of 'go with the flow and make the most of it' like babies do. Unless she wants food, then you hear about it. So she doesn't complain too much in this.
Yvie is 4.5. So she has a considerable amount more understanding. She knows full well that she should be at preschools. She knows she's not seen another person properly in about 3 weeks. She knows something is going on.
She has asked me once or twice if we can go to the park, I've told her it's closed and we're not allowed to go at the moment, but as soon as we can we will. She responded with 'OK, when people stop being poorly we can go.' She's four years old. Her knowledge on this situation is limited but she has got that bit sussed. She gets that.
She's four years old, she understands that and makes her peace with it. It's a shame grown adults can't do the same.
MINI GARDEN PHOTO SHOOT
Thankfully I have 4 willing (sort of) volunteers when I fancy doing a back yard photo shoot.
When it comes to black and white it's something I go in and out of. At the moment, any photo is worth of being black and white.
Anyway, the four have been marvellous these past couple of weeks. We don't have a bit garden and yet they've coped really well with the social isolation and home schooling. Long may it continue.
It’s finally starting to feel like Spring here! We’ve had weather in the 70s☀️ Which came at the perfect time since we’ve been stuck at home! We made a DIY obstacle course & got Cora’s bouncy house out this past week. Let’s just say she’s had fun & kept us VERY busy all at the same time lol.
Tell us what ya’ll have been doing to keep busy & entertained at home⬇️ #stuckathome#socialdistancing#workingfromhome#momlife#dadlife
Many Christmases ago I was bought a @raspberrypifoundation computer. A Covid-19 lockdown later and I've utilised it in the way of setting up Scratch for our eldest (6YO) to use and begin learning basic coding. The video is his first game called Cat and Mouse, which he showed his 2YO brother how to play.
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It has been so chaotic of late that I forgot that we are on holiday next week. What was going to be a week on the beach with friends is now going to be a week of DIY and gardening. However, I am not complaining the time off is very welcome. I just hope the weather holds, failing that the list of DIY is getting longer... Painting this thing is on the list. It has gone from being a wendy house to the local shop, as Eliza's new found love is to stand at her new window and sell items. I overheard her earlier asking for money before she would let @jueberrybean have the goods. I expect that will turn into a want for actual cash soon too.
I've been trying to use up all of the off cuts we have in the garage to avoid going outside. I suspect it will be the most overly decorated house by the end of this isolation. I may also have to find time to hide in the workshop and actually tidy it up. For those woodworking geeks on here I am trying to get a new cyclone for the dust extraction. It should keep me busy for a while and keep me breathing longer; win win.
Double knock-out 🥊🥊
Even when they sleep they mess with each other. They won’t go to sleep without each other and they can’t sleep when they are kicking and punching lol. .
Luna will go up to them and say “Hi!!!” And freak them out. She always has an evil smile when she does it 😈. I’m pretty sure she’s just making sure they know that SHE’s in charge 😄
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CATCHING THE EVENING SUN
Today we waited until after our tea to take our walk with the dogs.
I'm a little fed up of the route but I know it's quiet and one where were least likely to see other people. That said, I added a both in tonight.
Anyway, here's a photo of our resident power doing what she does best.
3 days ago
Self isolation is going well. Pretty chill to be fair at the moment, the hardest thing is explaining to a three year old why he can’t see his friends but then he gets distracted anyway so 🤷🏼♂️🥴😅
Whether you managed to catch it or not.
Even when it’s behind an impenetrable wall of foreboding, tumultuous clouds or dreary old soak you right through drizzle.
Even when you’ve been stuck in work since before dawn and are still there as the streetlights flicker to life.
The sun is going to set.
The sky will ignite with colour, before ebbing away to darkness.
And someone on the other side of the planet is going to be dragging themselves out of bed.
There’s no profound point to this,
but I guess if you do get the chance to watch the sunset today, take a second.
That’s the last sunset some people will ever see, and the first one for someone else.
As the inimitable Ferris once ingrained into our collective hearts,
l i f e m o v e s p r e t t y f a s t.
The sun is going to set whether you’re ready or not, whether you managed to start or ever finished the things you dreamed of. ✌🏼❤️
1 week ago
First week of April and I’m thinking of lots. I’m thinking about my wife, my children, our health, the business, the future... in a way I’ve not really thought about it before.
Everyone knows I am a machine with drive, positive energy and focus - that’s not changed, what I am thinking about more now than ever, is other people and how they are coping, my staff, their families, friends, children in need, in bad domestic situations - the short term and long lasting impact this is having on them and everyone else.
I get into bed at night, always kiss my sweetheart, but my thoughts turn to those who might be less fortunate, those that did take the chance and all seems bleak right now, those is need, people that are desperate and have nowhere to turn. If you are one of those people struggling right now, stay positive - trust the journey, forget about financial constraints and flip these moments into a something positive. More time with your wife/ partner, more time with the kids, free headspace, get educated and learn something new - I am 🤜🏻🤛🏻
This right now is just part of your life story - make it count.