As a recovering perfectionist, I have a hard time embracing the messier sides of me.
I saw these photos and almost didn’t share them cuz they’re not “perfect” enough / aka my belly hangs out in the second one, my nips are sticking out, my new tattoo isn’t healed yet, etc.
But I’ve been learning to love the “messy” side of me.
The one that gets dirty going up hills, but sits happily on the dirt, admiring the view ✨
The one that lets a friend tattoo a cactus on me, so he can practice his skill and so I can remember this place forever 🌵
The one that forgets to wear a bra for the 5th month in a row 🤷🏽♀️
The one that lets my belly hang out, cuz what the hell is the point of sucking in my belly if there’s no one but my husband around? 🤔
It’s taken a while for me to embrace this side of me. I fought it for so long.
But I think this is why i’ve grown to love this stage of my life so much. Because it’s messy. Because it’s unplanned and it goes against what I grew up believing i’d “be”. Take my tattoo, for example. Most of my tattoos are quite delicate, like my avocado tattoo I got recently 🥑 Full of detail and planning and thought.
And then this newer tattoo was totally spontaneous, with wobbly lines and a rustic feel to it.
I’ve never been too delicate, nor too rustic. But I’m blending the line of who I am. I can be delicate & perfectionist at times, but I can also get down on the ground, eat with my hands and get reeeeal messy.
So I encourage you to share your messier sides with others. That picture in which you might think your face or body looks weird? SHARE IT! That video where your dance moves are happy and sloppy? SHARE IT! Our lives are not meant to be perfect, they’re meant to be REAL. So here’s to living an imperfectly messy life 🤗
EAT THE DAMN PIZZA 🍕
Il y a encore quelques mois, le fait de savoir que j'allais manger à l'extérieur ou simplement quelque chose que je n'avais pas préparé moi même m'angoissait énormément.
J'y pensais toute la journée, ça m'obsédait, à tel point que ça devenait un moment que je redoutais et je pouvais même devenir désagréable à cause de ça. Aujourd'hui quand on mange au restau je suis capable d'apprécier pleinement ce moment avec ma famille et mes amis. Je suis contente de pouvoir commander des pizzas et les déguster devant un film avec mon copain. Je suis soulagée de pouvoir aller chez des amis sans emmener mes propres repas.
Et c'est une des raisons pour lesquelles je ne reviendrai pas en arrière. J'en ai marre et je regrette d'être passée à côté de tant de moments de joie, de bonheur et de rire parceque j'étais obsédée par mon apparence.
Profitez de l'instant, mangez ce qui vous fait envie, sortez, riez, arrêtez de croire que le bonheur ne se mérite qu'en ayant un corps parfait, et vivez. ❤️
1 day ago
don’t be afraid of new beginnings.
don’t shy away from new people,
new energy, new surroundings.
embrace new chances of happiness.
the path i’m on is refreshing and exciting.
new opportunities have been coming my way
and i for the first time in a long time,
am not scared to say Y E S.
here’s to looking fabulous
while changing lives
and pursuing happiness 💐
How many times have you questioned yourself?⠀
Questioned your power,⠀
your ability to create the life you want?⠀
You’ve seen glimpses of how incredible and mind blowingly awesome you are but you always seem to lose it.⠀
One second you think you’re the absolute shit and the next... you’re beating yourself up, questioning how you ever thought you were good enough for ANYTHING you want.⠀
Aren’t you tired of feeling confident but LOSING it??⠀
Aren’t you ready to just KNOW and accept that, yeah you’re the shit and you can do/be ANYTHING you want??⠀
It’s not about what you look like.⠀
It’s about what you think like.⠀
It all starts with the resolve that you CAN make changes.⠀
Confidence in yourself comes from keeping the promises you make to yourself.⠀
What promises will you make yourself today that you will keep all week??⠀
Lemme know down below 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
I know it’s shocking but this is no Keto body 🤭... And equally as shocking, considering I'm splattering this image on the internet, is that I don't feel entirely self-confident😳. So much so, that a short while ago I wrote a blog post about it but then locked up and didn’t publish it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I recently asked my blog readers if they'd like to hear more ”Paula-esque” content. They all said ”yes”- probably thinking there would be more ”funny” stories like in my IG stories today. 😳😂 But, more ME also means dealing with weightier topics like self-esteem and body confidence.
⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Social media can INSPIRE us but there’s a flip side that can crush our self confidence. And THAT’S where I’ve found myself of late.🥺 But I’m trepidatiously PUBLISHING my latest blog post: CAN Fashion Influenced SOCIAL MEDIA BE AS HARMFUL as PORNOGRAPHY? Head on over and JOIN THE DISCUSSION. (Link in profile) 😘
Wearing a 14 in swimsuit -details on blog or Screenshot this pic to get shoppable product details with the LIKEtoKNOW.it app .
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You never know what’s just around the corner.
Hindsight has taught me that there is always more to the story. Many times when I thought I should give up I’ve been surprised by what came next. Especially in modelling some of my biggest wins came after my biggest failures. Just keep walking xo
Cheer me up with stories of your biggest surprise wins!
body confidence is not a size or a number on the scale. body confidence is feeling confident in your body and taking care of it every single day. for years I have struggled with my own body image and pressured myself into thinking I have to look a certain way. I really don‘t. None of us have to. I mean look at all the ridiculous things the media and society will come up with, for you to buy something hoping it will change your body. Best example: cellulite. who the f*ck declared that cellulite is something we should be ashamed of or hide? I love my cellulite and stretch marks .. so what if my skin is not perfect? does this make me anything less of the woman I am? It does not. body confidence doesn’t come over night. like training your muscles, you have to train your mind as well. nobody was born with body confidence. and there is no easy way getting to it. distance yourself from what the media and society want you to look like. focus on yourself. and i know everyone keeps saying „we all have flaws“ yet again demonizing the things about our body we struggle with. I don’t have flaws. My body is the way it is, my big boobs or stomach „rolls“ are not flaws. the only reason they are made out to be flaws is bcs the society/media wants you to think that way. and i don’t know about you but I couldn’t care less about it. life is too short to care about things like that. I look the way I look and if that doesn’t fit your body image, than that’s your opinion. I will continue to love myself no matter what ♥️
5 days ago
Sororidade = é a união e aliança entre mulheres baseado na #empatia e #companheirismo em busca de objetivos comuns.
#Sororidade é a versão feminina da fraternidade, em tradução livre seria algo como união entre irmãs.
A Sororidade consiste no não julgamento prévio entre as próprias mulheres, ou seja, representa uma comunidade em que mulheres se unem para apoiar e ajudar umas as outras, sem julgamentos.
Já conhecia essa palavra? Acha que ela está inserida na nossa sociedade? Acha que a rivalidade e pré conceitos ainda atrapalham?
The weather is finally cooperating here today and I’m about ready to dive into SUMMER... 💦 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How about you, are you ready? ☀️ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I’ll admit, my attitude has been about as gloomy as our weather. ☁️ I’m on the struggle bus. More likely I’m under it being crushed by the weight of harsh self comparison. Allow me to be brutally raw for a moment... I can easily find myself in a bad place with a pit in my stomach feeling like I’ll never succeed when measured next to the beauties who are skinny, smooth or striking; or the ones who have that “special something” or those who stand out because of their willingness to exploit sexuality . I get it, we’re all drawn to beauty.
If you sometimes fall down the this same dangerous rabbit hole, repeat after me: “COMPARISON IS THE THIEF OF JOY!” Let’s say it as many times as we need it. I might be saying it all week long.
Let’s vow to put the devices down if they are sucking joy from us. We’re as fearfully and wonderfully made as the next chick! Don’t live vicariously through someone else’s highlight reel just take your wonderful self right out and enjoy SUMMER! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🛍 Screenshot this pic to get shoppable product details with the LIKEtoKNOW.it app or you can follow the link to the blog in my profile and select “SHOP MY STYLE” from the menu. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Clothes that don’t fit
Accounts promoting diet culture
Does something come up for you?
What holds you back from letting it go?
What would you have to give up?
Try it out, call it an experiment. It doesn’t have to be forever. Notice what data you collect as you live without this item. What’s different?
Of course we can’t wrap ourselves up in bubble wrap, avoid pain, uncomfortable emotions or things that bother us. We also need to learn distress tolerance skills but reducing unnecessary exposure can be an act of self care.