Gospel. ♥️📖 || Via: @oloriswank
Are you familiar with your primary love language?
There are five basic love languages:
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
Each of the languages are important, and expresses love in its own way. Remember, we are not a one-size fits all species and everybody gives and receives love in their own way. Also, the way we love as adults is usually reflective of the love we received in childhood.
Learning your partners (and your own) primary love languages will help to create a stronger bond in your relationship.
*Disclaimer* this does NOT guarantee success in a relationship. But it does foster a stronger union and opens up a space of communication and understanding.
So take some time to get familiar with your love languages...it’s a very useful tool. #blkgrlpeace
Gospel. ♥️📖|| via: @blackfemaletherapists and @derrickjaxn
Let’s talk about gaslighting in a relationship. The term “gaslighting” is defined as: to manipulate (someone) by psychological means into questioning their own sanity.
How many times have you heard, “you’re just insecure” “you’re crazy” “you have self esteem issues”...etc? This tactic is TIRED and a sign of mental manipulation. A means to control and avoid accountability at all costs.
In ANY healthy relationship, owning your shit is pivotal. I mean seriously, who are you helping with avoidance and deflection??? No one! Especially not yourself, your partner, friends, family, or colleagues. •
Even if it hurts your ego to the core, you will find yourself in a happier space when you own your flaws and just admit shit...you were wrong, you lied, you made a damn mistake, you screwed up. 🗣OWN IT 🤷🏽♀️
We cannot heal if we refuse to recognize the hurt. Periodt.
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Na dúvida, coloque um sorriso no rosto e finja que nada aconteceu. 💫
People will say whatever the freak they want about you. Don’t believe it.
Don’t just start picking up new beliefs about yourself just because someone keeps jamming it in your head.
Don’t pick up the insecurities that people project on you. That is not who you are.
The right reasons.. From day one I knew that my writing would not be about money, but more about sharing the experiences I had along the journey in a way others could relate to it and in hopes it would help at least one person along the way. There was even a time when I had multiple conversations with my team about giving away the books ( which I did with a few anyways) and finding ways to get them in the hands of people who really needed an outlet as I definitely needed in the past. This was my reasoning, not to become famous or be so well known that people stop me in the streets asking for autographs. Now, don’t get me wrong, if it came with me being an author and writer it wouldn’t be a negative thing, as I would surely be able to reach even more people with this passion of mine, making sharing the vision behind my books even more attainable. But the reasons have to be honest, sincere and most of all the for the right reasons. I understand the idea of fame, appearing successful ( see I used “appearing “ because most are not) , people recognizing who you are, but too many things attached to the ego at some point will fade. I just wanted to share this because I feel people lose focus after a while along their own journey, especially the people who may have started off with the right reasons, maybe because they found it was taking too long, it didn’t happen soon enough or simply because they didn’t get or gain the attention they thought they deserved and wanted. For whatever reason don’t forget why you started, and most of all, trust the process, once you do, all the things that are for you will be for you in due time.