What makes you feel good?
For me: days alone at home, phone calls with friends, deleting Instagram from time to time, making my twice daily TM practise non negotiable, doing hard things, soft serve vegan ice cream, documentaries about the mind, videos about sloths, forging my own path.
Pic by @emilyonlife and shared by @nondietriotclub
Looks can be deceiving.⠀
Don't assume that someone has it all figured out just because they look like they do.⠀
People can be judged as 'being rude' but really they're just socially anxious.⠀
You might think your friend is ignoring you or doesn't like you, but really they just can't face opening Whatsapp right now because they're so overwhelmed.⠀
Someone might be looking like they're having the holiday of a lifetime but secretly they can't relax or switch off from their to-do list.⠀
Let's all be kinder to ourselves and each other 😘⠀
My last post said “b.e. brave”... this is me being brave! I hate putting pictures of me up 🤦🏻♀️ but I’m trying to do it more so you know who I am! A face with the name always helps 😊 I have a lot coming up in my life that I’m going through that will require me to “b.e. brave”... I’m not sure I’m ready but I know I can do it! ⠀
I went to Coachella for the first time! I’ve wanted to go for some time now as I feel it’s more my type of music, people & vibes. I did notice at times I got caught up in the “what am I going to wear” but then I’d remember no one would care what I’m wearing!!! So I just threw a bunch of clothes in my bag & put on whatever I was feeling that day but making sure I took comfortable shoes! A lot of walking... just to get in!! #coachellatips ⠀
I enjoyed the music, getting to know people and being out in the sun ☀️ I’m hoping to go again knowing what I know now. Did anyone else go or is hoping to go? Or any other music festivals you love?
3 weeks ago
2 days ago
I went alone. And when I got there I was overwhelmed by how not alone I felt. 💛 Also, therapy dogs are the best idea ever. 🥰⠀
Thousands of people came to support @afsputah today and walked—not just for suicide prevention, but for those they’ve lost. A child, parent, sibling, friend, even themselves. I came for all of it—walking for anyone who’s still searching for the light.⠀
Two years ago I was struggling more than I ever have with shame, self loathing and perfectionism. I couldn’t get past the image in my mind of who I thought I was supposed to be, and just how much I was falling short. It was paralyzing. I still have the voicemail saved on my phone from my therapist returning my call to schedule that first appointment.⠀
Yesterday I found out that a close family member planned their death 3 years ago. Words cannot describe how grateful I am that they’re still here today. But did I have any clue? No. And they didn’t know about my pain either. ⠀
I just keep thinking of @brenebrown’s words: “Shame needs three things to grow out of control in our lives—secrecy, silence and judgment. When something shaming happens and we keep it locked up, it festers and grows. It consumes us. We need to share our experience. Shame happens between people, and it heals between people. Shame loses power when it is spoken.”⠀
We need to keep talking—with our friends, coworkers, therapists, siblings, parents, children—to heal our shame and end the stigma around mental health. I can’t think of anything more vulnerable and courageous.⠀
A smile, a hello, a how are you doing? Real conversations about life and where we’re trying to get to, can open doors to hope and helping one another along the way. ⠀
We each have our own path here on earth, but we’re all just walking each other home. 🙏🏼⠀
Hear more of my experience with mental health from the #OutoftheDarkness walk today in my stories. #bethevoice#stopsuicide#youareenough
1 month ago
I try to be a what you see is what you get kind of human. When I first started writing here years ago, it was about recovering my life from a basket of invisible addictions/diseases, all ranging from anxiety to people pleasing to anorexia, learning #tothineownselfbetrue. I had had a love affair w anorexia for 23 years, it was my God to worship, my demon to fear. Psyche wards, ECT, therapy, group therapy, residential. I tried it all. Shame was at the cornerstone of all of my attempts. It was a 23 year process just to get to the event of choosing it for me just over 6 years ago. I was doing it w out help too. It’s hard to undo decades of rules about food. I did it. Day by day. In late 2016, I had a 3rd failed brain surgery which added to diseases I had involving my cranial nerves. I am the face of someone one living w some of the most rare & the most painful diseases known to mankind. The pain affects chewing & swallowing. Both acts are like assaulting my self so in Feb. ‘17, I said yes to a permanent feeding tube. Now that’s a mind f*ck. I am finally eating all the foods I had always denied my self & now I need a feeding tube. Holy hell. AND, w out hesitation, I said, “Yes”. I have fought hard over the past couple of years to go from tubes that malfunctioned to finally a button. Loop hole after loop hole. I fought fiercely. And now, I’m fighting for my food that goes in it. I don’t have to fight for my place at the table. It’s mine no matter. With an eating disorder, no matter how far into recovery I am, it’s meal to meal. With the lows of my chronic & very painful illnesses & the ways they’ve changed my life, appetite can sometimes be the first to go. Right now, the struggle is getting very exhausting begging to have my food continued to be covered by insurance. And I can’t get an order filled. I’m in that appeals & wait place that is driving me effing bonkers. So, this is my current REAL. Fighting w the managers over my order & telling them my gift cards don’t expire.#Joywarrior
I posted really late last night something really personal. The response has been a little overwhelming and I still have to respond to some people. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Thank you to all of you for reaching out. I really didn’t expect it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Today I woke up and took myself out for a run. I didn’t really enjoy it. I don’t ever enjoy running but the feeling afterwards is wonderful. That really set me up for the day. I ate well (apart from a snack just now of cheese and crackers) I worked hard, did a little housework and cooked our favourite meal for tea. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I think it might take a while to feel like ‘me’ again, but I’m glad that I finally admitted I’m not ok. Today was a good day. I know there will be good and bad days but today was a good one so I’m hanging onto that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Picture of Twiggy. This dog is with me constantly and I don’t think she will ever know how much I rely on her. My little mate ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1 hour ago
Today was a rough day, full of hard emotions, and had to face the unknown.
I’m normally pretty stoic. I hate crying. So this post actually exposes a vulnerable side of me that I’m not used to sharing. .
Did you know that releasing emotion based tears is actually good for you?? Tears help excrete toxins and stress hormones that build up during stressful times. Crying also stimulates the production of endorphins, helping you feel better! So it’s a double whammy!
I used to do everything I could to keep from crying. I used to pride myself in it. I know better now. It’s still hard to do, but I’m learning. .
Feeling the emotions build up in my chest, I gave myself permission to break down in my car today. I allowed myself to just sit in it, feel my emotions, and have a good cry. Guess what?? I’ve felt so much better the rest of the day. My worries and problems didn’t disappear. They’re still there. But I FEEL better. I feel lighter. My chest doesn’t feel like it’s about to rip open. I can think clearer. I can focus. .
So I say to all of you, especially those like me, CRY THOSE DAMN TEARS.
1 hour ago
I KNOW we’ve got some newbies coming tonight, so if the fear of “being the only one who doesn’t know what they’re doing” has ever held you back from joining us at PiYo...TONIGHT’S YOUR NIGHT!
I’ve got a fun POWER mash-up comin’ in hot, so be barefoot and ready to torch some calories!
1 hour ago
Why coach your kiddos on EQ? Statistics have shown that when taught these skills in their formative years, kiddos: create higher achievement, reduce disciplinary problems and respond to setbacks with hope and resiliency versus hopelessness!
DO the things that scare you. And I mean really DO them. Dive in, head first. Give it everything you got. Whether it’s starting a new workout program, ending an unhealthy relationship, stop giving energy to the toxins in your life, quitting a job that drains you, beginning a new career... or become your own boss. Whatever it is, do it. And do it before your ready because I’m here to tell you, you’ll never be “ready”. Living proof of that.
When I first started coaching I was drowning in student loans, credit card debt, working 70 hour weeks, just been died from graduate school for the second time, 25 lbs heavier and in a brand new relationship. Hell I wasn’t even CLOSE to being “ready”. In fact I was in the worst mental place I had ever been in. I could have easily convinced myself I was too busy (which honestly I was), too broke (again.. def was I put it in a credit card that I maxed it out), not at my goal weight, tooo... insert every other self limiting belief I had. But I decided to take a chance because I saw what it had done for so many others and I knew if I took that leap and worked my butt off I could get there too; happy, healthy, and financially free.
And here I am, less then a year later coming up on my final days in a JOB before I take coaching full time. Beyond grateful I decided to say f my insecurities && dive in before I was ready. Just imagine where you could be in a year from now if you decide to do that scary thing... NOW!
Who are you here to be? What impact do you want to have on the world? How are you showing up?
These are some of the questions that brought me to discovering my passion, and ultimately brought me to be the founder and creator of @theheroichumans ⠀
This weeks #tuesdayswithdana is actually going to be all about YOU. Yup, you. The one reading this, soaking this in, and the one giving me the opportunity to be a part of your day by stopping by for this message. ⠀
I want you to ask yourself some of these questions, and see what comes up for you. It is my mission to hold space and to create conversations around meaningful connections and purpose driven interactions to be able to figure ourselves and others out a little bit more.
I want you to know that you aren’t on anyone else’s schedule when it comes to these questions and realizations. I have so much still to figure out. And tons to learn and be shaped by. But just starting the conversation helped me a lot. And made it clearer for me to weed out the things I wanted and didn’t want. ⠀
So now it’s your turn. Think to yourself. In your heart and in your head: Who are you here to be? What impact do you want to have on the world? How are you showing up?
If you’re up for it, share with me below🦋✨
3 hours ago
Trauma robs us of any ability to fully feel safe again. It can be an on-going uphill battle that you will repeatedly lose and keep sliding back down from if you try and “turn off” or away from fear. As humans beings, traumatized or not - fear is a part of our lives and minds. Being courageous does not mean you are able to magically switch fear off. I wish life was that simple... 🌺
When fear consumes me - I don’t fight it anymore. Learning to “just be” is a lesson that I am constantly practicing. I accept the truth which is - I am still fearful sometimes and that is okay. But even though I am scared - I will try and be brave so I can continue to choose forward in my life. And this process repeats its self all the time. 🌺
Each time you have to be brave - you are slowly regaining your control and power. Ways to help you be brave is to: Tune into your inner language and how you speak to yourself. Also - test out your trust. How will you ever know if the resources you have will help you move forward without trying? And finally, have an action plan for each time your feel scared. For me, it’s having my line up of people I know I can call and feel safe with. 🌺
One thing I’ve learned through this health and fitness journey and when it comes to building a business is that people are afraid to go 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 because they already set themselves up for failure, or somehow going 𝙖𝙡𝙡 𝙞𝙣 means they have to be perfect in their new endeavor.
𝙒𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙡𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙣𝙖𝙩𝙞𝙫𝙚?
The alternative is staying right 𝙬𝙝𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚. But, we somehow 𝙝𝙤𝙥𝙚 that staying in our comfort zone will miraculously yield something 𝙙𝙞𝙛𝙛𝙚𝙧𝙚𝙣𝙩.
I read a great quote today from my Five Minute Journal. “𝘼𝙣𝙮𝙤𝙣𝙚 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙞𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙚𝙢𝙗𝙖𝙧𝙧𝙖𝙨𝙨𝙚𝙙 𝙤𝙛 𝙬𝙝𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙮 𝙬𝙚𝙧𝙚 𝙡𝙖𝙨𝙩 𝙮𝙚𝙖𝙧 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙗𝙖𝙗𝙡𝙮 𝙞𝙨𝙣’𝙩 𝙡𝙚𝙖𝙧𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙚𝙣𝙤𝙪𝙜𝙝.” -Alain Fe Botton.
It’s puzzling to me how we sometimes rather stay right in our comfort zones, fear failing, yet wonder 𝙒𝙃𝘼𝙏 𝙄𝙁 our entire lives.
Isn’t it more thrilling to challenge and explore our own greatness instead of fearing it? It takes the same amount energy to doubt as it does to believe.
If you’re waiting for a sign, consider this as one. If you are the type of person that strives for excellence, has good work ethics, has a desire to share your gift to the world, is okay with failing forward, or you just want to get in the best shape of your life with simple daily habits, message me and I’d love to send you a video that gives you a glimpse into our amazing community!
5 hours ago
“Someone” photo bombed the shot. LOL. Can you find him? 🤣
Tuesday Intention: “Find your passion, love with every ounce of your bones, stand up for things that matter, don’t settle, don’t apologize for who you are. Be brave.” Anonymous If you feel like people who are brave don’t feel scared or fear, let me tell you, they still feel those emotions. It becomes a choice in the end, will you let those fears stand in the way or will you go for it? You are so brave and strong. Let’s do this!.
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5 hours ago
What does a coach do? Where the traditional role of parents it to teach morale and character, a coach teaches mindset developmental skills. I teach your child the brain science behind the power of their minds by targeting thought patterns.