Over the last 25 years of working with anxious-sensitive-creative clients and course members - and parenting two highly sensitive sons - the attributes and tendencies of this personality type have become quite clear. As I often say in my work, when you’re on this spectrum, you're in good company, for to be highly sensitive is to be among the most conscientious, empathic, moral, honest, intelligent, kind, caring, and creative people on the planet. •
Your anxiety is evidence of your inner gifts - your intrinsic qualities that are an inviolable part of who you are and don’t need to be proved or earned. However, when the gifts aren’t honored and channeled - when they weren't celebrated by early caregivers and when you didn’t receive a healthy roadmap for how to meet the gifts - they morphed into the challenges. The work then is to learn the mindsets and tools that will allow you to reparent yourself in the way you needed to be parented, celebrating your beautiful sensitivity with the compassion of your own inner mother and growing your inner loving father who can help you channel the attributes of high sensitivity toward positive ends. This is what I teach in my Trust Yourself course. •
If you can’t heal for yourself, do it for your children or future children. If children aren’t in your life, do it for the planet, which desperately needs the sensitives to claim their true nature and bring their gifts to the world around them. You are not broken. You are not disordered. There’s nothing wrong with you. You simply need the correct mindsets and tools that will help you embrace who you truly are so that you can heal at the root. Come join us! The course starts on Saturday and I look forward to meeting you and guiding you there. Link in Stories and bio. •
We love Venn Diagrams. We have used them to highlight the differences and overlap between mental health challenges several times before and we will use them again. They’re a great tool.
What’s also true is that they cannot possibly capture all of the important parts of you that blend together to create your unique identity now. They have serious limitations, and should never be used as a diagnostic tool.
As with all posts on Instagram, it’s important that you are discerning with what information to take in. If a Venn diagram or chart or graph seems to be missing an important component for you, it probably is.💛
20 hours ago
AND THAT INCLUDES YOURSELF | if you really feel like you're not making any progress👇
HERE'S a few self management tips to help you. 🌱 we don't get taught these in school.
🌱1. The fact that you are questioning if you have had any progress is a good start, without seeking new information, we will never learn a thing. There will be no change. Well done.
🌱2. Look back at your day, week, year. What has changed? What have you been doing? No matter how small aknowledge these small achievements. Don't forget to include daily basics, I fed myself, I clothed myself, I helped someone, I decided I wanted a change etc. These are all achievements because it is all for your wellbeing. Do this regularly, we often forget that we have been doing lots.
🌱3. If you really see no change, it could be you're going around in circles, not knowing what to Do, unsure, afraid. Focused on those worries & fears & missing other things.
✒your goals down
#create more connections
#have more awareness
#look, work towards a meaningful purpose
What is it you want?
What's been holding you back?
What's stopping you?
Write down all worries
Take each one
Ask is there something I could do?
What can I Do? My actions 👉Nothing?
Worry solves nothing it holds you back.
✒a plan & action it. You may decide you cannot make change unaided 👉plan, action, support
*you can't change anyone that does want to change, you can only try to influence. You can change you. 🤗
🌱If the thought
'This will never happen, it will take too long, I'm not able'
Enters your mind.
Speak back kindly but firmly.
'Nothing changes unless you take action, yes this may take some time, but better to be in the change than sitting back in the past, the years flow by with 'still the same'. Nk matter what you've heard, where you got these beliefs from, you CAN, you ARE capable, you CAN learn, everyone is capable of growing, so can I, it's only the thought stopping you, plan & action then look back next year' x
9 hours ago
Have you ever been frustrated with a relationship or maintained a certain distance because you didn't want it to be one-sided or you felt like you were the only one putting in the work? "Keeping score is one way that we maintain distance in anxious relationships, writes Kathleen Smith, Ph.D., on her Psychology Today blog. "A seemingly self-absorbed parent, an inconsiderate sibling, or a radio-silent friend are convenient excuses to reduce contact. It’s easy to label one person as the problem, but often both parties are participating equally in the behaviors that maintain this distance (or sometimes conflict) that keeps them from a closer relationship." One response to these frustrations is to try to make the other person change. But this often proves ineffective, says Smith, a therapist. "Often people will find that when they focus on being the kind of person they want to be, a relationship will calm down enough that the other person can feel comfortable with more frequent and more intimate contact." #psychologytoday#psychology#friends#family#relationships#conflict#anxiety#advice
Anxiety Management Group hosted by Head & Heart Psychotherapy and Counseling Centre in Saar & presented by Ronell Grobler for:
Kids who worry a lot
Who : Children between 8 - 10 years of age
When : Saturdays from 10:30 am – 1:00 pm
Dates : 16 Nov, 23 Nov, 30 Nov, 7 Dec (4 sessions)
Session 1 : What is worry? :
why are thoughts important
where does worry come from
how does it work
when is it too much
physical aspects of worry
Session 2 : Fighting fear by facing fear (part 1 ) :
calm thinking versus worried thinking
Session 3 : Fighting fear by facing fear (part 2) :
gradual exposure (mini-stepladders)
dealing with bullies / mean kids
Session 4 : Coping with worry :
relaxation / distraction techniques
becoming confident / assertive
Expected outcomes - kids will:
- become less anxious
- become less shy
- be more assertive
- have more confident behaviour
- be more sociable - be more brave to do scary things
- have fewer physical symptoms - focus better on schoolwork
- interact better in groups
- cope better with bullies
- make friends easier
- be happier overall
For more information please Contact ☎️ +973 37774741
4 minutes ago
Friends......I’m here to tell you ANXIETY is a very real issue and it’s time we talk about it. No more brushing it under the rug and no more throwing medication at it.
I have suffered from anxiety for as long as I can remember. Most of the time I keep it under control but every once in awhile out of nowhere it creeps up on me and gets the best of me.
For those of you who suffer from it you get where I’m coming from. But for those of you who don’t let me paint you a quick picture.
Imagine that you’re sitting at dinner with friends or family. Or that you’re watching your kids baseball game or dance recital. Or maybe you’re watching your favorite tv show. Then all of the sudden out of nowhere for no reason at all your palms start to sweat, your heart starts to race and sometimes your vision gets slightly blurry and it feel like it’s hard to breath. Then you think to yourself holy shit am I having a heart attack? This must be the end. But really it’s not. It’s just an anxiety attack that decided to show up unexpectedly.
Now take that experience and times it by 6.8 million. Because that’s how many people suffer from anxiety in the US alone. But only 36% of people suffering actually get help. And I feel like a big reason for that is people feel ashamed and feel less than and just hide it. Especially men. We can show weakness or vulnerability. Or we’re not “real men”
For those of you suffering reach out please. Get help and never give up. As I’ve said in a past post it’s like riding a big wave. Once you’re on it just hang on tight the wave will eventually crash to the shore and the fear will end. So just ride the wave and know you’re not alone. There are others out there going through the same things. Reach out and get help. Don’t suffer in silence. I promise it just makes things worse. I’m always here to talk if anyone ever needs me.