Autistic people with well-developed masks may do better in certain situations compared to autistics without masking skills. Still, masking may come with a heavy cost, leading to physical exhaustion, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and burnout. #actuallyautistic #TakeTheMaskOff
1 week ago
I was born autistic. I’ve been autistic my entire life. And, I will die autistic. But I didn’t know I was autistic until I was diagnosed at the age of 29.
1 day ago
My mother is slowly accepting my diagnosis. When I first suspected I might be on the spectrum, she completely invalidated everything I told her. Sensory issues? “Everyone has them!” Social interactions? “Nobody cares that you’re awkward!” Never being able to make long-lasting friendships? “It’s their loss!” I get the place where she was coming from, although I still think it comes from a very selfish place of “I don’t want my kid to be different; I don’t want to be that parent.” As a 27-year-old woman, I couldn’t care less about her opinions and went through the diagnosis process anyway because I’d reached the lowest point of my life, and I was genuinely miserable. I needed answers, whichever that was. The thing is, that’s not the case for other people, especially kids. There are kids all over the world being denied a diagnosis because their parents refuse to believe them and take them to a specialist. There are kids not taking themselves seriously and questioning their feelings because their parents told them they’re overreacting. They are self-doubting themselves and falling deeper into the pit. Don’t do that. Don’t invalidate their experiences; even if you don’t get them. Just listen and help them out; make them feel heard and supported like they’re not losing their minds. Like it’s not all in their heads because, the truth is, if they are feeling out of place, something is going on that needs to be addressed. Don’t force them to step into adulthood with pockets full of angst and trauma because it was hard for you to accept the fact that your kid was different. Trust me; whatever you think it was hard for you, it was a thousand times harder for them. .
No one Everrrrrrr in a million years chooses this stuff!
No one!! And tomorrow night in my (free) Brains = Behaviours webinar we’ll dive DEEP into meltdowns and how they fit into our children’s cycles of coping/not coping.
As well as your role in that cycle!
Registrations for the 10 week Brains = Behaviours eCourse open in 24 hours! And if you’re on the waitlist, or registered for the webinar you have the opportunity to grab a while bundle of extras - including ‘The Meltdown Series’ my three part video series.
Links in bio for the waitlist AND the webinar. 24 hours peeps!!!!! Eeeek!!
it's called a spectrum for a reason!!!!!!!!!! not because you are more or less autistic, but because traits can range from all over
- katie 🌸
- credit to @/autistic-reptile on tumblr 💫
6 days ago
According to my mother, I was two years old the first time I had a meltdown because someone had wanted to touch me, and I refused their contact. As an adult, little has changed; unnecessary touching from people other than my partner (and only when I request it) puts me on edge. To me, it’s too invasive. I’m very protective of my space, and even being touched to get my attention seems pointless when you can call out my name or wave at me. I can’t help but feel disrespected and slightly annoyed when NTs can’t understand it and actually joke about it. One time, a co-worker asked me for a hug which I kindly refused, and she hugged me anyway because she thought I was joking—despite being 100% clear about it. Bottom line is nobody has a right to touch another person. Period. I don’t care that it’s common, I don’t care that it’s something that’s been going on for ages, I don’t care there’s nothing “wrong” with it. I won’t ever compromise with unnecessary touching to fit in. And if you are bothered by it too, you shouldn’t have to compromise either. Do you experience this too? Has someone refused to respect your boundaries despite telling them how you felt about unnecessary touching?
Remember friends, self care is super important. This is what self care looks like after that intense article. Do not lose yourself in your advocacy. The subject matters can cause you to relive past trauma. #actuallyautistic#autisticmomsrise#selfcare
19 hours ago
You know what makes you healthy and happy. Living bright can help you get it!
19 hours ago
My special interest :)
19 hours ago
You are an amazing being deserving of love and respect just as you are! Live bright, dandelions! ✨
19 hours ago
Hey guys, I know I’ve been off the radar for a while now. I just recently moved into my dorm and started my new life at university. It’s a both really hectic and exciting time, as change usually is, and I can’t wait to see what the future brings, and I will try to catch up on the Maya Rise YouTube channel ASAP. Thanks for everyone’s support, and may the changes in your own lives be for the best. ❤️💞
👍 RECIPE: BREAKFAST IDEA
Need some health breakfast ideas? Our friend Kathleen DiChiara has some great recipes on her website, including these Grain Free Belgian Waffles. Try them today, and tag a friend!
Visit kathleendichiara.com and search grain-free-belgian-waffle
Here are some WIP photos of the b-room cabinets for the friends who mentioned not seeing them enough in this morning’s video.
There is also a picture of our eccentric tissue box.
One day, when the budget allows it, we will change the counter top, sinks and faucets.
There you go!
Now time for the next home project;)