I've learned that sharing my story with people can be a bad idea.
We need to be careful who we share our life story with.
I've learned to trust people slowly and carefully.
Online, I use a pen name - so my story can be shared and it has been worldwide.
My blog is at 2.7 million views.
My pen name protects my identity.
In my offline life - I am very careful.
I've lost people I believed were friends.
I've had people use my trauma history to hurt me.
I learned many lessons from this.
I've learned to protect myself.
I want every trauma survivor to protect themselves too.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario 💜💜💜
Reporting your abuser is a very scary decision.
It’s not for everyone.
But if the reason that’s holding you back from reporting is because you’re worried about hurting your abuser, then I want you to know this.
You’re not ruining their life. Abusing someone is a choice. It’s a choice that should come with consequences just like any other action.
You’re not ruining their reputation or destroying their friendships. If anything, you’re letting others see that person for who they really are. You might even find others join you in saying #MeToo. That was certainly the case for me.
And despite what their ‘supporters’ may say, what you’re doing is incredibly brave.
You’re helping yourself. You’re helping other survivors. And you’re making your community safer.
I reported my abuser twice.
The first time I reported him, it went nowhere. The cops couldn’t find enough evidence.
This second time, for a different crime, has taught me these 3 things.
He chose to hurt me. And hopefully, he won’t hurt anyone else.
Day 13: The Words You Speak
The apostle Peter plainly tells us that enjoying life and seeing good days, and having a positive mind and mouth, are linked together (1 Peter 3:10). If we change our words, we can change our life!
Our mouth gives expression to what we think, feel, and want. Our minds tell us what to think, not necessarily what God thinks. Our wills tell us what we want, not what God wants. Our emotions tell us what we feel, not what God feels. As our soul is purified, it is trained to carry God’s thoughts, desires, and feelings; then we will begin to speak life instead of death.
Your words, as reflections of your thoughts, have the power to bring blessing or destruction not only to your life but also to the lives of many others. In 1 Corinthians 2:16, the Word of God teaches us that we have the mind of Christ and that we hold the thoughts, feelings, and purposes of His heart. We don’t manifest them all the time, but we are daily growing and being transformed into Christ’s image. He that has begun a good work in us will complete it and bring it to its finish (Philippians 1:6). The closer we come to God, the quicker we will experience victory in our mind, mouth, moods, and bad attitudes.
No matter how far you have to go, I know you can change because I did. It took time and “heaping helpings” of the Holy Spirit, but it was worth it.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”
Proverbs 18:21 KJV